Good questions, very good questions IMO.
Sound chemical education trains us to stop asking them.
Going to a couple of high level chemistry meetings once it seemed to me you can force to combine almost any bunch of atoms that we don't think normally sit together, perhaps I exaggerate slightly., with forcing conditions and protection.
But then ornery chemistry is about what can easily exist, at least stable enough to observe ordinarily, reactions that go easily, preferably products you can isolate.
One of the things we've been trained and habituated not to think of is NaOH without any water. I can see how you could make some in a dry atmosphere. But with normal (or Normal) 1 M or 5 M NaOH of the ornery laboratory there is plenty of H
2O - so I would not have thought of adding it. I guess then your answer to i is you're expected to know and assume the water's there anyway.
ii is a good question - on analogy with carbon you might expect that to exist. It does, or at least metasilicate HSiO
3- ions and salts (analogous to bicarbonates) do exist apparently - but it is fairly hard to find anything out about them - which seems to be already telling you something about their stability. Apparently hydration of the oxide or dehydration of silicon acid is hard to stop at the halfway metasilicate stage. BUT someone might think, now if I can find a metal ion that will make a particularly good fit with metasilicate anion the metasilicate could crystallise and so I would stabilise metasilicate. And apparently - I never heard of it before today - cadmium metasilicate does exist and you can buy some.
I hope this gives some idea why in chemistry you hear of certain things and not others that seem at first sight to have equal right to exist and receive attention.