Is Teenage Rebellion Fueled by Music and Disillusionment?

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The discussion revolves around feelings of disillusionment, angst, and a sense of being trapped in societal expectations, particularly among teenagers. Participants express a deep connection to music as a form of solace, with a wide range of bands mentioned that resonate with their emotions. There is a strong sentiment of wanting to break free from societal norms, such as the pressure to pursue prestigious education or careers, with many participants feeling misunderstood by their families and peers. The conversation shifts towards coping mechanisms, with suggestions of engaging in physical activities like running or exploring new hobbies to alleviate feelings of confinement and despair. Some participants share personal experiences of overcoming similar feelings, emphasizing the importance of self-acceptance and pursuing one's passions despite external pressures. The dialogue highlights the struggle between personal desires and familial expectations, with encouragement to communicate openly with family about individual aspirations. Overall, the thread captures the complexities of teenage life, the search for identity, and the role of music and physical activity in navigating these challenges.
  • #31
Chrono said:
You hit it on the nail. I'm as shy as it comes when trying to hit on a girl, albeit, I've gotten quite a bit better in the last couple of years. It even took me a while to ask those two girls out.

There's this one girl at work who I've been trying to hit on (And yes, she does have a boyfriend. I just figured, "Why not?"). She has been giving me quite a few hugs lately, even though I've asked for them.

I think what my problem is I just don't know what to do. When I try to go for it, but my mind just goes blank.

I used to be REALLY shy, but then in high school I took a drama class and that helped huge. Now, the effects only happen with a girl I really like, like I said. If I know the girl and then I like her, then I'm fine. If its one of those girls with killer eyes, then I'm deadmeat.

A boyfriend, eh? I have no real advice for that since I don't recommend what I normally do. The best thing to do is to make her time around you great, positive and happy. That way she will always get that warm/happy feeling around you. You should do that for everyone anyways, but in case you don't normally act in that fashion, that's the way to go. Put it this way, whenever she gets in a little fit with her boyfriend or anyone she will want to have that warm/happy feeling and if your lucky, your pretty face will come up in her head. :biggrin:

Another piece of advice, that almost everyone will tell you, even girls, is don't WAIT TOO LONG. I made and still make this mistake a lot. You wait too long to "find" if she likes you before asking her out. The best way to go is to think realistically, and if there's a slight chance she might like you, ask away. Also, just because you ask a girl out that doesn't mean you can't talk anymore. When I was shy (other shy people did the same), that after you ask the person out and you get rejected, they seldomly talk anymore. Don't make that mistake either. I can almost guarantee that if you get rejected the first time, and still talk to the person on a regular basis, you will have an even better chance the second time. Why? Well everytime the person you asked thinks about you, the thought of you asking her out comes up. After awhile it just sticks, and you got it all wrapped up.

Also, another piece of advice that I love. DON'T THINK ABOUT IT! Don't think too much, and I know this is hard for our kind of people. I love this advice because when a friend wants a girl, but can't get the nerve to ask her out, I always say "think about it...think about it" and then they think too much and blow it. And then, I laugh at him.

Don't make plans for nothing. i.e. Planning the date when there is no date yet. (This is an example of thinking too much.)

Enough advice.

My update so far is nothing. There's this girl at work that seems to tell me everything that's going on "behind the scenes". I'm going to see what updates are up this weekend, but that's all I can do so far. School is out. My friend would like to hook me up with someone, but I don't know if it will happen or not. It might just be for a little something on New Year's and that's it. A date is what I need, and want. I also want a girlfriend with a relationship that lasts longer than a month.

Enough talking.

Good luck.

Note: Do what you want, but avoid asking that girl out when still seeing that guy. Continue with the hugs, its a nice touch. :biggrin:
 
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  • #32
JasonRox said:
Note: Do what you want, but avoid asking that girl out when still seeing that guy. Continue with the hugs, its a nice touch. :biggrin:

Great advice there, Jason. I'm going to start coming to you for some more often.

I have a small idea I want to bring up with you about that girl. I was thinking of saying something like this to her: "When are you going to dump your boyfriend so we can go out?" I'm going to try to make it more like hitting on her than asking her out, you know?

I'm definitely keep up with the hugs. She gives good ones. I told her that she might as well just give me one everyday. I have a great chance to go out with her and other guys from work, but as luck would have it they could get in touch with me when they tried. That really made me mad.
 
  • #33
Chrono said:
I'm definitely keep up with the hugs. She gives good ones. I told her that she might as well just give me one everyday. I have a great chance to go out with her and other guys from work, but as luck would have it they could get in touch with me when they tried. That really made me mad.

Are you saying other guys at work have a shot too?

If yes and those guys get the same old hugs like you, it sounds like a flirty girl. Flirty girls are fun, and probably the best out of them all in my opinion.

I can't give any advice on how to get rid of the boyfriend. Like I said, keep it happy and positive around you.

The problem is that I don't know about your relationship with her, the boyfriend and what not.

I'll think about it.
 
  • #34
JasonRox said:
Are you saying other guys at work have a shot too?

I probably wouldn't say that. From what I remember and gather I'd say that I'm probably the only one that asks for hugs from her.
 
  • #35
and it was all my fault.