Since I was 8 years old, I thought I would not have much trouble in making friends and maintaining social relationships with others if I am always honest and kind to everyone. However, as I get older, I realized that being honest and kind will not always guarantee an impeccable social relationship. Some people used me because I am just too kind. Let's have an example. Person A and Person B have similiar personality and they are completely irrelevant to one another. They are both kind, benevolent, sympathetic, and etc. Suppose both A and B encounter an identical situation. A and B are requested to do some task. Both A and B prefer to decline it due to the circumstances. If A declines the request, the society will regard him as the one who can stand up and an assertive person. If A accepts the request, the society will praise his kindness although his situations are not very easy. If B accepts the request, the society keeps exploiting him and consider him as a fool who cannot express himself. If B declines the request, the society will criticize him for not being flexible or helpful with others. I used to be a person like B. How can I get out of this situation? P.S. When I said "Society", I meant the "Majority". I have met few people who are really kind, acknowledge other's accomplishments, and help with each other not using other people as a tool.