Hornbein said:
TL;DR Summary: Does the mass make any difference as to the rate of inspiraling?
Suppose you have two small masses spiraling into a black hole in similar trajectories. Does the mass of these small masses make any difference to the rate of inspiraling? What if one is a thousand times more massive than the other...
My recollection is that it depends on the details. If one of the masses is a significant fraction of the mass of the black hole, the system loses energy and there can be an inspiral for this reason. And in this case the mass ratios matter. It sounds like in your case the masses are small and there would be negligible difference.
Objects with negligible masses can also spiral into a black hole if they don't have enough angular momentum.
https://www.fourmilab.ch/gravitation/orbits/ has the equations and a graphic illustration, but it might be a bit tricky to use. A very short hilight - to use the application, set the angular momentum value and other parameters, then click on the yellow "effective potential" diagram to set the starting position and start the simulation.
The effective potential method is a method that reduces the 2d problem to an equivalent 1d problem, as per the wiki
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Effective_potential. It's basically the differential equation of motion for the 1 dimesnaionl problem, but rather than writing down the diffential equation, one computes and/or displays a potential that would have the same result. One imagines a ball rolling down the hill of the effective potential diagram - or more literally, a frictionless ball sliding along the hill illustrated by the diagram. The effective potential method originated with the Newtonian problem, but there is a GR version applicable to the GR equations of motion for a test mass as well. Note that the method assumes that there is no energy loss due to gravitational radiation. Thus the effective potential method isn't good for the inspiral problem where the inspiral occurs because of energy radiated away by gravitational radiation - rather, it is applicable to an unstable orbit with insufficient angular momentum.
Also note that there is no such minimum angular momentum in the Newtonian orbital case, the minimum angular momentum is GR specific.
Finally, note that the GR equation and diagram uses slightly different parameters to describe the physics that the Newtonian version. The radial coordiante "r" in the GR case is the Schwarzschild r coordinate, which is different than distance. It is still true though that as the r coordiante approaches the Schwarzschild radius, the infalling object approaches the event horizon, but there are confusing singularities in the Schwarzschild r coordinate near the event horizon. The time coordinate for the GR problem is the proper time tau, which is the time that would be read on an idealized clock or idealized wristwatch carried on the infalling mass, rather than a coordinate time.