The discussion revolves around perceptions of attraction, gender roles, and societal trends in dating. The original poster (OP) expresses frustration over the dynamics of attraction, noting that sexual attraction is a fundamental aspect of human behavior. There is a debate about the assumptions made regarding relationships, particularly questioning how the OP knows the girls are dating the men they are with. Participants highlight that often, less conventionally attractive or "goofy" men can succeed in dating attractive women due to their willingness to approach and engage, contrasting this with the OP's more passive observations. The conversation touches on the significance of physical traits like long hair in signaling health and virility, suggesting that such attributes can influence attraction. Additionally, there is mention of an increase in bisexuality among women, with a critique of how this trend is perceived. Overall, the thread reflects a mix of personal experiences and broader societal observations, with some participants urging for more open dialogue rather than defensiveness.