I'm afraid I'm not sure what exactly is the issue of the thread? Maybe ,the questions are "in what way time can be considered
4th dimension in relativity?" or "what's intuitive meaning of
the term time in relativity or ,generaly,in physics ?". Some posters already answered first question,but some of the posters are overcomplicating in doing so (like reffering to tensors,completely unnecessary in flat spacetime of special relativity). Time isn't independent variable in relativity,nor it is like
"mysterious extra dimension itself".It shouldn't be confused with
additional spatial dimension of 4D hiperspace either (Jennifer is correct,
that's different).Main reason behind speaking of 4-dimensionality in relativity is mathematical description. Origin can be found in difference between Galilean transformation and Lorentz transformation. Both transformations provide functional relation between coordinates (x,y,z,t)<-->(x',y',z',t') of two inertial frames ,in uniform motion.So,how would you explain it to a layman?
Here's my way ( motion is along x-axis): Galilean tr.:
t'= t;x'=x-vt,y'= y,z'=z
Lorentz tr.:
t'=\frac{1}{\sqrt{1-\beta^2}}(t-\frac{\beta}{c}x);<br />
x'=\frac{1}{\sqrt{1-\beta^2}}(x-vt),y'=y,z'=z
Now,if we consider:
t'=f_{1}(x,t),x'=f_{2}(x,t)
we see that in Lorentz tr. functions f_{1},f_{2} are
both functions in 2 variables.In Galilean tr. this not the case (only
f_{2} is function in 2 variables)!
Therefore,if Galilean relativity charaterisation , by this standard,corresponds
somehow to "1+2=3",special relativity charaterization must be "2+2=4".
Of course ,this is just a funny analogy,very far from rigorous mathematical
treatment but layman may get a core idea.