Tipping has gotten out of hand in the US

[cristo]

You're free to think that if you want.

There's nothing to think about: it is not a miserable wage.

I can tell you that when I was a bartender, if you had come into my bar you would get excellent service the first time or two that you came in, but after a couple times with no tip, I would probably be focusing most of my attention on the tipping customers.

If you did something truly "excellent" then you'd probably get a tip, but if all you did was open a bottle, you wouldn't get a tip, and if you then became an *** and started serving tipping customers first, regardless of a queue, I'd go somewhere else. There is not a shortage of bars!

 

[NeoDevin]

There's nothing to think about: it is not a miserable wage.

I don't know where you're defining `miserable' to be, but when minimum wage is $7/hour, $8/hour is pretty miserable unless you're a high school student living with your parents. That's barely enough to make rent here (typical rents in this city are $1000+/month for a single bedroom appt.), never mind having enough left to buy food or spend on anything else.

If you did something truly "excellent" then you'd probably get a tip, but if all you did was open a bottle, you wouldn't get a tip, and if you then became an *** and started serving tipping customers first, regardless of a queue, I'd go somewhere else. There is not a shortage of bars!

Excellent service is more than just opening bottles, I hope for your sake, you never have to work for tips, because you'd probably starve.

 

[cristo]

Excellent service is more than just opening bottles, I hope for your sake, you never have to work for tips, because you'd probably starve.

I don't think you're reading what I'm saying. What I meant was that if you give excellent service by, say, making a complicated cocktail or something equivalent, then you would probably get a tip, but opening bottles isn't tipworthy, regardless of how you do it. And no, I won't have to ever work for tips, because that doesn't happen over here!

 

[JasonRox]

Basically, what he did was theft. I guess I have been lucky, I have never had to put up with anything like that.

Haha, someone tried to that to a friend of mine. He reached over and took his money. Haha!

 

[JasonRox]

I don't think you're reading what I'm saying. What I meant was that if you give excellent service by, say, making a complicated cocktail or something equivalent, then you would probably get a tip, but opening bottles isn't tipworthy, regardless of how you do it. And no, I won't have to ever work for tips, because that doesn't happen over here!

In corporate America, it's happening everywhere. It's instead of the company paying the employee, the customer pays for the product, the employee, and a profit margin (which is USUALLY used to pay the employee).

 

[fileen]

I once had to move 40 bales of wood shaving for a customer, the guy looked about 25, sat on the grass and watched me (15) throwing bag after bag into his truck. I was pretty irritated by the end when I was all hot and irritated, and he he was blowing smoke in my general direction. Of course this was part of my job so I certainly didnt complain or suggest he assist me. Once they were all loaded he showed me his bill and started arguing about the price of the shavings. He wanted a discount for buying a bunch at a time. I kept telling him that I couldn't do anything about it even if I wanted to, that he'd have to speak to a manager the owner. He got really mad and started yelling, and I told him he could call any time and ask a manager for help. He finally left squeeling his tires. An older gentleman who had been waiting for me to help him had watched and when I went to get him his 3 bags of food he tipped me 10$. He was a regular and had never tipped me before and I was pretty certain he was only tipping me because Id dealt with the previous guy. It felt really strange. I had never been tipped before and even though I made 8.50/hour I still didnt want to take it. He wouldn't let me refuse though, and tipped me every time he came in after. I couldn't help but want to go out of my way for him. If the food he usually bought went on sale, I would call him and let him know. When he opened a bag and didnt like the feed, even though wer'e not suppose to, I let him have a new bag in return for the old. The manager was cool with it because he was a regular. My desire to help him out was not just because of the money he represented, it was because he had gone out of his way to let me know he understood that my job sucked and I got paid next to nothing. If hed never tipped me again Id still go out of my way for him because I felt like he appreciated what I did every day. It freaked me out that young fit looking guys would stand around watching me drag around hundreds of pounds of horse food, and the older gentlemen flat out refused to let me carry it alone. To someone who works in a job like that, a simple drop of the tail gait is better than any money you could tip them. If the lady who wanted free horse food brought in a bag of opened food wanted a refund I would not be inclined to give her the time of day. She treated me like crap. I guess what it comes down to is what goes around comes around

 

[Pythagorean]

completely depends on situation.

It's easy to become a preferred customer with tips. For instance, if you're a good tipper, in a bar, you will be the first one served when you're 1/50 waving money and shouting at the bartender (assuming the bartender knows you're a good tipper)

People will generally find ways to favor their tipping customers and eventually may even begin to spite the non-tippers more.

Oh yeah, and never be mean to fast food people. Unless you're ok with digesting saliva.

 

[TheStatutoryApe]

If you did something truly "excellent" then you'd probably get a tip, but if all you did was open a bottle, you wouldn't get a tip, and if you then became an *** and started serving tipping customers first, regardless of a queue, I'd go somewhere else. There is not a shortage of bars!

But there may be a shortage of bars where you get good service. I always tip bartenders well. And I know that they will be sure to get me my drink quickly and make it well. Often they even put more alcohol in it, though I don't generally like that. My tab tends to be less. If they have extra of shots they were making or of some blended drink I will often find it sitting in front of me on the bar. If I ask for a fancy drink or top shelf liquor I pay the price of a well drink. I also some times get free food and let in for free when there's a cover charge.

I hate bikini bars though. If they realize that flirting with you and showing lots of cleavage isn't going to get more money out of you they practically ignore you even if you tip well.