Well, heck, if my understanding of quantum mechanics has caught up to Einstein, I shouldn't feel too badly! :-)
So the wavefunction really exists. Particles really are smeared, and in several places at once. They look like they are in one place when we observe them, but only because our observation "kills their buzz."
So, here's my really big question: How does one go about gaining some sense of intuitive comfort with this part of reality. I'm past the feeling that it must all be some form of dark magic at work... but only just.