Aspergers and considering academia.
If you want to find a community of Aspies, wrongplanet.net is a good place.
I don't believe the VA will cover any cost to Aspergers, unless you're medically retired, but don't quote me on that. Since it isn't a condition that can be connected to your service, I am very doubtful they can help.
A lot of the therapy is built around teaching your social behavior and communication techniques. There is medication that will help reduce repetitive behavior and irritability. Just talk to an expert and see what can be done.