As an example, you said that it would be meaningless to say that a classical particles is the same as its position and momentum. But I would say that it would be quite meaningful, in the sense that it would really mean that a classical particle has no other properties than its position and momentum. And if someone objected that it also has mass, one could argue that it has not, because the mass is not a property of the particle itself, but is a parameter in the Hamiltonian. In other words, the kinematics of a classical particle consists in its position and momentum (as functions of time), while everything else (such as mass of the particle) belongs to the dynamics.
So if we accept such terminology, then it makes perfect sense to ask whether the quantum particle is the same thing as its wave function, in the same sense in which the classical particle is the same thing as its position and momentum. And, as has been already said here, in some interpretations of QM, namely many worlds (and also in the objective collapse theory, which, however, is not just an interpretation, but an alternative theory with slightly different measurable predictions), it is indeed the case that the quantum particles is the same thing as its wave function.
Of course, you may object to such terminology, that "to be the same as" means "to have no other properties than". But that's just a terminology. A terminology can be chosen at will, and when one defines reasonably clearly what one means by certain terminology, then it starts to make sense.