GR86 said:
It's impossible yes but if the two twins COULD instantaneously see eachother during the trip
...then relativity would not be a correct theory and we would live in a very different universe. You cannot just override one of the fundamental principles on which a theory is based without completely re-writing it. In this case you are simply assuming that there's a physical meaning to "instantaneously" in the sense of "at the same time over a distance". That is not what relativity describes, and does not appear to be the universe we live in.
In reality, the twins can only watch each other through telescopes and correct for the changing light speed delay. How they do that correction involves some assumptions, and difering assumptions will give different "age now" figures. Any sensible procedure will tell the stay-at-home that the traveller is aging at a steady sow rate (although he is not required to be sensible and other answers are possible), but almost any sensible procedure will tell the traveller that the stay-at-home ages at a variable rate, sometimes slower, sometimes faster. But the exact pattern depends on assumptions.
GR86 said:
Differences in relative time passage, as an observer would experience them, are real. We see it in real time with satellites that are under lesser gravitational fields in earth's orbit, and the clocks must be adjusted for time dilation.
Sort of. Nobody "experiences differences in time passage". They always experience time at one second per second. They may sometimes measure other clocks to be ticking fast or slow, but there's a lot of flexibility in how they can choose to measure other clock rates.
Note that the example of the GPS clocks involves clocks going in circles. Just like the twin paradox, they return to their start positions, so there's a non-arbitrary way to determine whether they're older or younger than a stay-at-home clock would have been. In between, it suits our purposes to treat them as ticking at a constant rate - but that's a choice made because it makes the maths easier.
GR86 said:
Time on the moon is slightly faster than that on earth as it's within a weaker gravitational field.
Again, this statement is kind of true, but depends on assumptions that aren't really correct (that the Earth/Moon spacetime is one of the stationary spacetimes, which it isn't) but the consequences aren't evident in such weak gravitational fields. Saying "time is faster on the Moon than the Earth" is wrong but won't bite. Saying "time is faster on the lighter neutron star of a tight binary pair" will lead you into a world of inconsistent nonsense.
GR86 said:
For me, i prefer to discuss concepts as close to how we would experience them.
That's basically why all of physics is in invariant quantities - things you can directly measure in an assumption free way. Time dilation is not one of these things. Nor is length contraction. They largely exist as concepts in relativity because they got cemented into pop-knowledge about relativity before we really understood the depth of the changes that relativity wrought on our view of the world. They're basically irrelevant beyond Relativity 101, and there's a school of thought that they should basically be relegated to "history of the development of relativity".
GR86 said:
do we really think Newton was doing equations for a falling apple?
Newton's study of gravity led him to develop an entire new field of mathematics, calculus. So yes, we have a few suspicions that he was thinking mathematically.