Time dilation isn't something that you directly experience. Instead, the special and general theories of relativity entail something called differential ageing. This means that if you go and spend some time close to a black hole and then return, you may well be significant younger than someone who stayed at home. The reason for this is that you have taken a shorter path through spacetime. The length of your path through spacetime is precisely the amount of proper time that has elapsed for you. Proper time is what you experience.
So, although when you return you may be younger than the friends you left behind, you have literally experienced less time. In that sense you can't directly get the best of both worlds by ageing less yet experiencing the same amount of time to enjoy life. You need herbal remedies for that!