Can't stand it: talking loudly over the phone in public

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Discussion Overview

The discussion revolves around the social etiquette of talking loudly on mobile phones in public spaces. Participants share their experiences and frustrations regarding this behavior, exploring potential responses and the implications of such actions on others in the vicinity.

Discussion Character

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Main Points Raised

  • Some participants express frustration with loud phone conversations in quiet settings, suggesting it may be an attempt to show off or make a statement.
  • Others propose various strategies for addressing the issue, such as politely asking the person to quiet down or using humor to deflect the situation.
  • A few participants share humorous or extreme suggestions for dealing with loud talkers, including disruptive actions or sarcastic remarks.
  • There are mentions of the potential embarrassment involved in confronting someone about their loud phone habits, with some preferring indirect methods of addressing the behavior.
  • Some participants reflect on the insensitivity of loud talkers and question the social awareness of individuals who engage in such behavior.

Areas of Agreement / Disagreement

Participants generally agree on the annoyance of loud phone conversations in public, but there is no consensus on the best way to handle the situation. Various competing views and strategies are presented, reflecting differing comfort levels and approaches to confrontation.

Contextual Notes

Participants express a range of emotional responses to the behavior, from annoyance to humor, indicating that personal experiences and social contexts may influence their perspectives. The discussion includes both serious and lighthearted suggestions, highlighting the complexity of social interactions in public spaces.

Who May Find This Useful

This discussion may be of interest to individuals concerned with social etiquette, those seeking strategies for managing public interactions, or anyone who has experienced similar frustrations in public settings.

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Hi all...on many occasions I've come across people who talk loudly over the phone. Smehow i don't find that acceptable. It's even more frustrating when they do it while sitting next to me. I tend to think they have an intention for doing it; like trying to make some kind of a statement or showing off their competency in some non-local language. Like yesterday, i was at this bookstore that was relatively quiet. This lady went on talking loudly over the phone with exaggerated responses like a loud "OH REALLY!? I went oxford University to study too...got 90++%...blah blah...". Everyone sitting nearby me looked at each other, then at her, then back at their books. Every once in a while the looking around process would repeat.

How can we deal with people with such bad phone habits?
 
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I was trying to order a meal in Subway, and some gimp started talking VERY loud on his mobile phone. So I stood next to him and spoke louder, just talking crap to a friend. Yes, I'm petty sometimes.
 
How can we deal with people with such bad phone habits?

Ask them nicely to please quiet down and that you're trying to read.

If that doesn't work, I guess you could get security.
 
I have heard a few loud talkers speaking into their cellular telephones. I think if I knew some of them personally I’d likely feel embarrassed for them knowing that people within 30-foot radius are hearing first hand the shallowness and unimportance of what’s being said. Sometimes it is business, however, so I listen keenly for anything useful.
 
Cell phones are a great cover for people who are having auditory hallucinations and want to converse with them.
 
i'm still trying to think out a way to not make the situation awkward if i have to tell a person to be quiet. Somehow, someone will be embarrassed and i don't want that. Plus, who knows what kind of responses they can come up with, especially those who are quick-witted, who can come up with clever rebuttals or excuses in a split second. In doing so, they may quite likely cause me to be the embarrassed one instead!

How about this: i talk to someone beside me, preferbly someone i know, about what is being discussed by the loud talker, and share my insights and views on it. All this to be said in a volume just barely audible for him to hear. This way i won't have to personally interact with them(great for the shy ones like me), and can solve the matter with the least amount of conspicuousness. haha! good idea!?
 
It is pretty annoying when your sitting in a restaurant and the phone behind you goes off and the guy who picks up and says

"Hey, what did the doctor say? Did you pick up the tablets that will clear the Thrush up?"

Most off putting.
 
Adam said:
I was trying to order a meal in Subway, and some gimp started talking VERY loud on his mobile phone. So I stood next to him and spoke louder, just talking crap to a friend. Yes, I'm petty sometimes.

Great idea. Ill have to use it sometime when some bloke starts to yammer on and on about nothing.
 
zoobyshoe said:
Cell phones are a great cover for people who are having auditory hallucinations and want to converse with them.

Conversely, those microscopic non-hand-held ones are a great cover for people who are having normal conversations on the phone and want to appear as if they have auditory hallucinations.
 
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startic84 said:
How can we deal with people with such bad phone habits?

Take away the phone from them, throw it to the ground, and stomp on it. It's the only logical thing to do.
 
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Chrono said:
Take away the phone from them, throw it to the ground, and stomp on it. It's the only logical thing to do.

Umm..No, sounds illogical to me. Unless you're pretty experienced in street fighting and don't mind getting hurt and arrested :wink:

You can always politely ask the person to just turn it down a bit.
 
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The_Professional said:
Umm..No, sounds illogical to me. Unless you're pretty experienced in street fighting and don't mind getting hurt and arrested :wink:

I don't mind.
 
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jimmy p said:
It is pretty annoying when your sitting in a restaurant and the phone behind you goes off and the guy who picks up and says "Hey, what did the doctor say? Did you pick up the tablets that will clear the Thrush up?"
Or maybe worse - "Did you get my medication for my head lice"? :eek:
 
  • #14
startic84 said:
How can we deal with people with such bad phone habits?
While standing next to the phone caller, start coughing uncontrolledly with your mouth uncovered, and state, "Oh God! My brother's been diagnosed with pneumonic plague."
 
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what's pneumonic plague?
 
  • #16
Tsunami said:
what's pneumonic plague?
It's the airborne type. It's contagious.
 
  • #17
haha it's fun reading the replies we get here.
maybe - what would you do or say if you have this person standing next to you talking loudyly over the phone?- could have been a better heading for this thread.
 
  • #18
I can't understand how people can have the insensitivity to talk loudly in a public space (or worse, on the balcony of the adjoining apartment at 2am). These people have no conception of the idea that their actions may disturb others around them. Or if they do have a conception, then they don't give a sh1t. That is sociopathic behaviour. I don't think you can brush this off as a minor personality quirk.
 

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