Dealing with Unrequited Love: How to Cope and Stay Sane

[whozum]

In the most neutral way to this situation as possible:

I would say there isn't anything you can do to make the person think differently about you other than make yourself more appealing. Certain people look for certain traits and value them more than others. Find your lovers traits and work them. There are also things that your lover doesn't want in a relationship, so you have to keep those in mind too.

If you want to keep loving me, then I guess you can. You're going to have a hard time staying sane if its a comanionate love over a passionate one, but if you think continuing to love me is a benefit to your mental health and self esteem then I guess I'm helping you more than hurting you.

Its just a burden on me to think that I'm taking this away from you, and know that I'm hurting you in the process.

 

[Gale]

what are you taking from me now? and no one's hurting me, its a conscious decision I'm making, so its my own issue. i happen to think that a person is worth loving, and so i want to, and i would feel unfair to feel differently about them because of how they felt about me. because though, yes, i want to be loved very much, i don't want to obligate someone to feel that way. I'm a mature person, I'm not looking to convince anyone to love me. i just want to learn to feel ok with myself and my life feeling so unloved.

 

[tribdog]

hey, whozum is in AZ? me too. want me to go beat him up?

 

[Gale]

TRIB YOU'RE BACK! where were you when i needed a place to stay in AZ?!?? how you been?

 

[tribdog]

I was anywhere but in AZ. I don't think I have the strength for a visit from you, I definitely don't have the stamina.

 

[Moonbear]

But, Trib, she's legally 18 now...notice the 17 is finally gone?

 

[tribdog]

it isn't the legality of it all, it's more of a health issue.

 

[whozum]

Thats where I come in :D
Just kidding..

 

[tribdog]

where are you whozum?

 

[whozum]

NE Scottsdale, you?

 

[tribdog]

NW Mesa, wow, want to go get a beer and I'll beat you up real quick?

 

[Gale]

he's only 19. sides, you should wait, I'm going to be there in 2 weeks!

 

[tribdog]

oh, you want to watch me beat him up?

 

[Gale]

i'd like to watch you try to beat anything up. especially after you've had a beer.

 

[tribdog]

was that a dirty comment?
I'll have you know I can beat it up
and you can watch I suppose

 

[moose]

Now I have three people to spy on, wooo!

 

[tribdog]

you want to watch me too?
I should start selling tickets

 

[whozum]

Yeah you could get a crowd. It would be an upset for you though, unfortunately for you its the underdog that wins these kind of things. You live by Main Street Billiards?

 

[tribdog]

right up the street maybe 1.5 miles away

 

[whozum]

right up the street

I've driven by your house quite a few times
Play there?

 

[tribdog]

used to, haven't in quite a while. I gave up a lot when I became a hermit, it was worth it though

ps do you think I really made Gale mad? I didn't mean to.

 

[whozum]

She's really upset. She's *****ing about you on AIM right now

I'm going to native new yorker tonight, right by you

 

[tribdog]

sh*t, have fun. I'm going to sit here all night and feel like a jerk. dammit.

 

[Gale]

trib, its ok. i know you're just trying to reinstate your manliness by making fun of an innocent little girl like me. Its ok. if it makes you feel better about yourself, you can keep hurting my feelings, and i'll just go cry in a corner.

 

[whozum]

she's lying. she's not innocent at all.

 

[Gale]

whozum likes to make little girls cry too. you guys have a lot in common. why don't you two go out tonight and kick children and take their candy! sounds like a blast eh!

 

[whozum]

whozum likes to make little girls cry too. you guys have a lot in common. why don't you two go out tonight and kick children and take their candy! sounds like a blast eh!

we did that halloween, we need some new activities

 

[tribdog]

I'm game. how bout you whozum.

 

[whozum]

if you want you can get me and buddies drunk and party at your place after NNY :D

 

[Gale]

if you want you can get me and buddies drunk and party at your place after NNY :D

translation: if you want, me you and my buddies can have a wild drunken orgy at your place after NNY. I don't mind biochemically enhanced penis. :D