A very simple answer to your question of "Do electrons/atoms/light quanta (photons) behave like particles or like waves?" YES
They behave both. All of them are dualistic in nature, meaning they exhibit the whole particle-wave duality thing :)
Sometimes they behave like waves and other times like particles. I think a lot of people get hung up on this apparent wave-particle conflict when it is first introduced and it seems all well and good for a little while but then as you dive further into QM you find yourself going...holdup...wait...WHAT?! how can it be both?
Neils Bohr first stated the answer to this apparent conflict between wave-particle ideas with the principle of complementarity. These two descriptions, wave and particle, are complementary. We are never going to need BOTH descriptions at the same time to describe the same part of a phenomenon but we do need both in order to have the complete our picture of nature.
So in terms of the de Broglie electron waves verification method using a single slit experiment with an electron beam:
We do a normal single slit experiment but instead of using monochromatic light we use a narrow beam of electrons (which can be produced through similar method to the electron gun in a cathode-ray tube) and do it in a vacuum (so the electrons don't hit air particles, bouncing off them and screwing things up ;) )
We will find we get the same interference pattern as we would if we had used monochromatic light! With a strong central maximum (≈85% of the electrons) and subsequently smaller maxima off to each side of the central with minima in between.
Now, classical mechanics would run into some major problems trying interpreting this in particle terms. Like answering, why don't the electrons all follow the same path (the same path of motion they initially had, i.e. straight...!) All the electrons had the same initial motion in the beam before they went through the slit... why the change in direction/momentum once they pass through the slit?? Newtonian mechanics doesn't have (at least not that i know of! pretty sure that's why QM is here to save the day :) ) a way to explain this change in state of motion.
So:
You cannot predict where any individual electron will strike the screen from knowing its initial state of motion before it reached the slit! Therefore you cannot be 100% certain of the position AND the momentum of each particle once it passes through the slit.
The best you can do is give probabilities that most of the electrons will go here, less will go here, and even less over here etc... which then gets into the explanation of Heisenberg Uncertainty principle..
anyway, all of this craziness (from the "eyes" of Newtonian mechanics) can be easily resolved to making sense if we think of the electrons as behaving as waves in this situation. This gives plenty of reason for the interference/diffraction pattern to be present! (if you don't know why you got to go look at normal single slit experiment with light)
The particle nature of electrons is not completely lost though in this experiment. (heres where it can get confusing for some but i'll try my best to keep things strait)
If we could slow down the whole experiment and had our screen, where the interference pattern is produced, be made of a black piece of photographic paper that turns white where ever an electron hits it.
We turn on the electron beam and say (gedanken experiment here ;) ) let out only a couple electrons. They fly through the slit and hit our black paper making their little white spots where they hit. What will it look like?!? You can't say for sure. But what you do know is with a HUGE number of electrons you get your nice strong central max and weaker side maximums.
What will happen is, with the first few, say five, it will potentially seem like random scattered dots. but when you leave the beam on, in slow motion again remember, over time your familiar interference pattern will slowly be "built" by tons and tons of those white dots on your black photo paper.
This is the electron particle behavior. They strike at points on the screen.
so WOAHHHH! Complementarity! We NEED both particle behavior AND wave behavior to explain completely what is going down in the slit experiments with a beam of electrons. With only one (or the other) of the behaviors, we cannot fully explain why both of these phenomena happen:
1. The inconsistent state of motion pre- and post slit
2. Our interference pattern gets "built" in small pieces or "dots" and seemingly randomly so (its not really exactly random per-se, in theory its built probabilistically. I don't know what name to put to natures method of painting with quanta lol :) )
We know this happens because we have seen it in experiments A LOT. lots of similar diffraction experiments with electron beams have been done and they all essentially build the same principle summed in the principle of complementarity.
If i made a mistake or wasn't exactly clear please someone let me know so i can correct!
-GreenLantern