Don't Look Back: Is It Childish to Avoid Eye Contact?

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The discussion centers on the social dynamics of looking back at someone after a brief encounter, particularly when a smile or eye contact occurs. Participants express varying views on whether looking back is acceptable or perceived as leering. Some argue that it is natural curiosity and a form of flirting, while others caution against the potential for being seen as creepy. The conversation highlights the tension between wanting to acknowledge attraction and the fear of misinterpretation. Many emphasize that mutual interest can be communicated through a glance and smile, suggesting that if both parties are engaged, looking back is harmless. However, there is also recognition that not everyone may appreciate being looked at, and personal comfort levels vary. Overall, the thread reflects on societal perceptions of attraction and the complexities of interpersonal interactions in public spaces.
  • #31
Dembadon said:
Then perhaps you should be more articulate. :smile: Erecting straw men like the second quote in my previous post isn't necessary.

So you recognize your second quote was a straw man ? Interesting.
 
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  • #32
Dembadon said:
I didn't make that assumption. By definition, "wary" implies a measure of uncertainty. In other words, if by looking, I receive a smile in return, no harm done. However, it is unreasonable to expect everyone to receive an innocent look in a healthy way. People come from different backgrounds; not everyone has been looked at in healthy ways. If I were to make someone feel uncomfortable, I'm going to apologize, and I don't think that's unreasonable. You can't just tell people their feelings are invalid. There could be issues that go much deeper than just an "innocent look back."

Yeah, right. See man, all this have a single flaw. To see you looking BACK at her, she must turn her head back and look after you.

So instead of blaming me for being inconsiderate, why don't you blame HER for looking back at me? Maybe I am just a poor guy and she will scare me senseless. You see the whole problem with your logic ?

What about, not blaming anyone and quit this whole non-sense ?
 
  • #33
DanP said:
So you recognize your second quote was a straw man ? Interesting.

Quit being obtuse, Dan.

DanP said:
God forbid I should look at her, no ? Because it makes me a inconsiderate piece of **** :P
Lets be serious.

The above quote was directed at me, was it not? The quote implies that I, at some point, claimed that you shouldn't look at women, which I didn't. If I'm wrong in assuming you were including me in your hyperbole, then please correct me.
 
  • #34
DanP said:
Yeah, right. See man, all this have a single flaw. To see you looking BACK at her, she must turn her head back and look after you.

So instead of blaming me for being inconsiderate, why don't you blame HER for looking back at me? Maybe I am just a poor guy and she will scare me senseless. You see the whole problem with your logic ?

What about, not blaming anyone and quit this whole non-sense ?

My logic is fine; my post was gender neutral. I never claimed it to be a one-way street.
 
  • #35
Dembadon said:
My logic is fine; my post was gender neutral. I never claimed it to be a one-way street.

Your logic is deeply flawed. Its not the gender thing which should have caught your eye, but the bolded portions. It's the fact that to see one persons looking back to you, you have to turn yourself. The other person just passed you in the OPs scenario. Else you will not see that person turning it's head after you. So again, let's be serious. Big deal.
 
  • #36
Can we stop this discussion here and don't look back?
 
  • #37
Borek said:
Can we stop this discussion here and don't look back?

:smile:

Yes, we can.
 

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