How moving affects your relationship/family

[LBloom]

Hi guys,

So I'm still an undergrad so this doesn't quite affect me yet, but it was something i was thinking about: how does the search for jobs and moving around affected your relationship with ur gf/bf/wife/husband/whatever?

When you're single and you want to go to a certain grad school or get a post doc position and its not close to where you're living, you can usually just move and do whatever is better for your career, but for those who were in a relationship where your partner is either in school or working, how did you manage?
Do you just look for grad schools and post doc position near by so you don't have to move or just have a longer commute? (i'm not sure how many post doc positions there are in a given region) Have you decided to move and had your partner just get a new job there or have you had to turn down a better position to avoid this problem?

Maybe I'm just worrying too soon, but it was something i was thinking about.

 

[lisab]

It's a real concern, actually. Scientists even a name for it: "the two-body problem."

 

[Evo]

If you are married, it's called "trailing spouse".

 

[mathwonk]

moving is probably better than just standing there.