I'm finally coming out of the closet, atheism I mean.

[nismaratwork]

"The fear of death is the most unjustified of all fears, for there's no risk of accident for someone who's dead." -- Albert Einstein

He was a clever man, but I'm sure he was taken by thanatophobia on occasion... I suspect everyone is.

"All our knowledge merely helps us to die a more painful death than animals that know nothing." (Maurice Maeterlinck)

"In any man who dies there dies with him
his first snow and kiss and fight...
Not people die but worlds die in them."
(Yevgeny Aleksandrovich Yevtushenko)

and of course:

"Our death is not an end if we can live on in our children and the younger generation. For they are us, our bodies are only wilted leaves on the tree of life." (Albert Einstein)

 

[DevilsAvocado]

He was a clever man, but I'm sure he was taken by thanatophobia on occasion... I suspect everyone is.

Nice quotes/poetry nismar, of course I have no idea what Einstein really felt, but I guess he was as any normal human that appreciate life – just because you don’t fear "eternal damnation" or any other medieval mumbo-jumbo, it doesn’t mean you’re ready to jump out of any other cliff:

– Hey guys look at me! I’m not afraid to dieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!​

What is somewhat baffling to me is the fact that the real hardcore religious doesn’t seem to appreciate and understand the "lottery of life". Every human that have ever lived and are living today has won the top prize in this lottery, despite the incredible bad odds. Just think about it; if your grandmother's grandmother’s grandmother, and so on and so forth, had a cold and fever on that very "special day" very long ago, you wouldn’t be here. Not talking about the sperm race...

I can’t calculate the odds, but I guess it’s much higher than the number of stars in the observable universe, 9 billion trillion stars; worse that one chance in 9 × 10²¹ ...

And this is NOT ENOUGH?? They want ETERNAL PARADISE on top??

I don’t get it...

 

[mathematicsma]

OP: whatever you decide, don't bother with quoting bararantok to your parents. It's a complete waste of time. Do NOT try to convince your parents that you are right. The only thing that'll cause is more of a confrontation. You'll be a threat to them. Besides, it's a complete waste of time to have theological conversations with religious people. You won't convince them, and they won't convince you. Especially when those people are your parents and they're concerned you'll be damned in hell for all of eternity. They'll get emotionally involved, etc.

If you do decide to tell your parents (which I discourage, see my previous post), just state the facts. You don't believe, you're not interesting in arguing with them. You respect the fact that they want to believe (say that even if you don't respect their belief), but it's not for you, and it's your life. That's all.

Good Luck!

BTW, who said we won the lottery of life? Maybe we lost it? I've heard Hawking quoted as saying that we "won the cosmic lottery." I'm not sure what that means. Perhaps we lost the cosmic lottery. Of all the universes that could have happened, of all the gazillion possibilities, I should think that ours is far from optimal. Okay, it could be worse. But it could be better. If you play a game where the payout can be anything between $0 and $5 billion, and you win $1 million, you didn't fare too well. But if you were unaware of the potential winnings, and the house just told you, "you won $1 million," you'd be pretty happy.

Did we win or lose? Are we unaware of how much more there could have been? Perhaps a world without all the diseases we have, all the criminals we have, etc.? All of those are evolutionary problems. And the fact that there are no unicorns, that's also a failure of evolution.

But when you're playing a game of chance, you can't expect that much. It's random, after all.

 

[Evo]

OP: whatever you decide, don't bother with quoting bararantok to your parents. It's a complete waste of time. Do NOT try to convince your parents that you are right. The only thing that'll cause is more of a confrontation. You'll be a threat to them. Besides, it's a complete waste of time to have theological conversations with religious people. You won't convince them, and they won't convince you. Especially when those people are your parents and they're concerned you'll be damned in hell for all of eternity. They'll get emotionally involved, etc.

If you do decide to tell your parents (which I discourage, see my previous post), just state the facts. You don't believe, you're not interesting in arguing with them. You respect the fact that they want to believe (say that even if you don't respect their belief), but it's not for you, and it's your life. That's all.

Good Luck!

BTW, who said we won the lottery of life? Maybe we lost it? I've heard Hawking quoted as saying that we "won the cosmic lottery." I'm not sure what that means. Perhaps we lost the cosmic lottery. Of all the universes that could have happened, of all the gazillion possibilities, I should think that ours is far from optimal. Okay, it could be worse. But it could be better. If you play a game where the payout can be anything between $0 and $5 billion, and you win $1 million, you didn't fare too well. But if you were unaware of the potential winnings, and the house just told you, "you won $1 million," you'd be pretty happy.

Did we win or lose? Are we unaware of how much more there could have been? Perhaps a world without all the diseases we have, all the criminals we have, etc.? All of those are evolutionary problems. And the fact that there are no unicorns, that's also a failure of evolution.

But when you're playing a game of chance, you can't expect that much. It's random, after all.

I love your post!

 

[rootX]

I agree with mathematicsma. I have also gone through that and it was not pleasant. In addition, I was more closed minded those days than I am now. Looking back I should not have argued that much with my parents.

 

[lisab]

Nice quotes/poetry nismar, of course I have no idea what Einstein really felt, but I guess he was as any normal human that appreciate life – just because you don’t fear "eternal damnation" or any other medieval mumbo-jumbo, it doesn’t mean you’re ready to jump out of any other cliff:

– Hey guys look at me! I’m not afraid to dieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!​

What is somewhat baffling to me is the fact that the real hardcore religious doesn’t seem to appreciate and understand the "lottery of life". Every human that have ever lived and are living today has won the top prize in this lottery, despite the incredible bad odds. Just think about it; if your grandmother's grandmother’s grandmother, and so on and so forth, had a cold and fever on that very "special day" very long ago, you wouldn’t be here. Not talking about the sperm race...

I can’t calculate the odds, but I guess it’s much higher than the number of stars in the observable universe, 9 billion trillion stars; worse that one chance in 9 × 10²¹ ...

And this is NOT ENOUGH?? They want ETERNAL PARADISE on top??

I don’t get it...

That makes me want to sing!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JWVshkVF0SY

 

[DevilsAvocado]

BTW, who said we won the lottery of life? Maybe we lost it?

I’m not saying that everything is perfect, but you are alive? Aren’t you?? Pick up a stone and experience the difference...

Earlier I was only referring to grandmas and sperms, but the story can be made much much longer, from the formation of every chemical element in your body in supernova explosions, to the decision of the first amoeba to go left or right. I.e. if you don’t believe that the Earth was created 3.000 years ago...

If you contemplate all this, and the fact that you are you, then it doesn’t matter that much that there are no unicorns. Let’s save the animals we do have!

In 1990 Carl Sagan requested NASA to turn the camera around on Voyager 1, before leaving the Solar System, to take a photograph of Earth across a great expanse of space, on a distance of 6 billion kilometers. The photograph is known as the Pale Blue Dot:

Earth appears as a tiny dot (the blueish-white speck approximately
halfway down the brown band to the right) within the darkness
of deep space.


Carl Sagan’s thoughts on a deeper meaning of the photograph:

From this distant vantage point, the Earth might not seem of particular interest. But for us, it's different. Look again at that dot. That's here, that's home, that's us. On it everyone you love, everyone you know, everyone you ever heard of, every human being who ever was, lived out their lives. The aggregate of our joy and suffering, thousands of confident religions, ideologies, and economic doctrines, every hunter and forager, every hero and coward, every creator and destroyer of civilization, every king and peasant, every young couple in love, every mother and father, hopeful child, inventor and explorer, every teacher of morals, every corrupt politician, every "superstar," every "supreme leader," every saint and sinner in the history of our species lived there – on a mote of dust suspended in a sunbeam.

The Earth is a very small stage in a vast cosmic arena. Think of the rivers of blood spilled by all those generals and emperors so that, in glory and triumph, they could become the momentary masters of a fraction of a dot. Think of the endless cruelties visited by the inhabitants of one corner of this pixel on the scarcely distinguishable inhabitants of some other corner, how frequent their misunderstandings, how eager they are to kill one another, how fervent their hatreds.

Our posturings, our imagined self-importance, the delusion that we have some privileged position in the Universe, are challenged by this point of pale light. Our planet is a lonely speck in the great enveloping cosmic dark. In our obscurity, in all this vastness, there is no hint that help will come from elsewhere to save us from ourselves.

The Earth is the only world known so far to harbor life. There is nowhere else, at least in the near future, to which our species could migrate. Visit, yes. Settle, not yet. Like it or not, for the moment the Earth is where we make our stand.

It has been said that astronomy is a humbling and character-building experience. There is perhaps no better demonstration of the folly of human conceits than this distant image of our tiny world. To me, it underscores our responsibility to deal more kindly with one another, and to preserve and cherish the pale blue dot, the only home we've ever known.

Sure, it could be real fun to have $1 million or $5 billion, but if you look at the Pale Blue Dot and think one step further, you’ll realize that you already are a "cosmic gazillionaire"... enjoy!

 

[chiro]

Personal beliefs, or lack of them, are just that: personal. You have no obligation to share, and I really wish that more people got that. I'm an atheist, and I'm tired of the jesus freaks, and whatever you call someone who posts what Bararontok posted above. Great, someone thinks that they go to a magical castle when they die, and I don't... snooooore... can we get on with fixing the world economy now? I'll worry about death when I'm dead, or not... we'll see!... or not.

This is probably the best post on the subject of belief systems especially religious ones and I commend you for your post. Its funny how some people who are scientific ram their case down other peoples throats as if to be superior when they are actually no different than the religious nuts telling everyone through a megaphone that the world will end in 2012. I'm glad you made this post because it sums up my view on the subject better than I could have done myself.

 

[DevilsAvocado]

that makes me want to sing!

I LOVE IT! MY FAVORITE SONG! Thanks lisab!

 

[mathematicsma]

I’m not saying that everything is perfect, but you are alive? Aren’t you?? Pick up a stone and experience the difference...

Earlier I was only referring to grandmas and sperms, but the story can be made much much longer, from the formation of every chemical element in your body in supernova explosions, to the decision of the first amoeba to go left or right. I.e. if you don’t believe that the Earth was created 3.000 years ago...

If you contemplate all this, and the fact that you are you, then it doesn’t matter that much that there are no unicorns. Let’s save the animals we do have!

In 1990 Carl Sagan requested NASA to turn the camera around on Voyager 1, before leaving the Solar System, to take a photograph of Earth across a great expanse of space, on a distance of 6 billion kilometers. The photograph is known as the Pale Blue Dot:

Earth appears as a tiny dot (the blueish-white speck approximately
halfway down the brown band to the right) within the darkness
of deep space.Carl Sagan’s thoughts on a deeper meaning of the photograph:

Sure, it could be real fun to have $1 million or $5 billion, but if you look at the Pale Blue Dot and think one step further, you’ll realize that you already are a "cosmic gazillionaire"... enjoy!

That's a beautiful quote from Carl Sagan. I enjoyed it, and I think it's a powerful thought.

That said, I'm not sure what it has to do with winning or losing the cosmic lottery. I'm not trying to say that we should all be depressed, or think that life is terrible because it could be so much better. That's a completely different issue, one of optimism vs. pessimism. What I am saying is that there is no reason to think of what happened to us as remarkable.

Let me explain this further with an analogy (I heard this somewhere, but I can't remember who said it first): Suppose I deal you five cards out of a deck. You take one look at them, and say, "Remarkable! Look what I got! Two kings, a three, an eight, and a six! Now, the odds of this specific hand being dealt was just one out of 52!/(5!*47!). That's tiny!"

Of course, that's silly. I dealt you a hand, so you had to get something, Whatever you get, you can say that it's a miracle.

Often, religious people buttress their arguments by saying that the odds of the world evolving the way it did are infinitesimal. So the must have been divine intervention. That's like saying that there had to be divine intervention in the hand I dealt you-- how else could you have gotten such a rare hand?

My understanding is that when Hawking said that we won the cosmic lottery, he was trying to answer that religious argument. In other words, yes, it's rare, it's remarkable that the world evolved the way it did, but hey, we won the lottery of evolution! Good for us, sucks for anyone who would have lived on Venus! Those guys lost!

That's where I disagree. Yes, we won relative to potential people on Venus, but we lost relative to what could have been, and perhaps what exists elsewhere. We know of but a tiny bit of our universe. So yes, we can look at the planets around us, and say, "We won $1 million, they all lost." But that's myopic. We have no idea what the potential winnings were.

 

[nismaratwork]

That's a beautiful quote from Carl Sagan. I enjoyed it, and I think it's a powerful thought.

That said, I'm not sure what it has to do with winning or losing the cosmic lottery. I'm not trying to say that we should all be depressed, or think that life is terrible because it could be so much better. That's a completely different issue, one of optimism vs. pessimism. What I am saying is that there is no reason to think of what happened to us as remarkable.

Let me explain this further with an analogy (I heard this somewhere, but I can't remember who said it first): Suppose I deal you five cards out of a deck. You take one look at them, and say, "Remarkable! Look what I got! Two kings, a three, an eight, and a six! Now, the odds of this specific hand being dealt was just one out of 52!/(5!*47!). That's tiny!"

Of course, that's silly. I dealt you a hand, so you had to get something, Whatever you get, you can say that it's a miracle.

Often, religious people buttress their arguments by saying that the odds of the world evolving the way it did are infinitesimal. So the must have been divine intervention. That's like saying that there had to be divine intervention in the hand I dealt you-- how else could you have gotten such a rare hand?

My understanding is that when Hawking said that we won the cosmic lottery, he was trying to answer that religious argument. In other words, yes, it's rare, it's remarkable that the world evolved the way it did, but hey, we won the lottery of evolution! Good for us, sucks for anyone who would have lived on Venus! Those guys lost!

That's where I disagree. Yes, we won relative to potential people on Venus, but we lost relative to what could have been, and perhaps what exists elsewhere. We know of but a tiny bit of our universe. So yes, we can look at the planets around us, and say, "We won $1 million, they all lost." But that's myopic. We have no idea what the potential winnings were.

I could be wrong here, but I think DA was making a case for the apparent tolerances believed to be a factor, not a case for divine intervention. Your argument is correct in the sense that, if given an infinity of choices, any outcome is possible, BUT... there's nothing to suggest that we had such an infinite menu. It's possible that this universe has no cyclical element, and that there isn't more than one. It's possible that our universe isn't infinite in extent, which closes off more 'chances'.

You seem to be talking about which planet, star-system, or galaxy we ended up in being all we know, not necessarily the best. DA, I think, is talking about matters such as physical constants which allowed for the formation of matter other than a soup or something equally unfriendly to thermodynamic processes that we associate with life.

 

[rootX]

I’m not saying that everything is perfect, but you are alive? Aren’t you?? Pick up a stone and experience the difference...

...

Sure, it could be real fun to have $1 million or $5 billion, but if you look at the Pale Blue Dot and think one step further, you’ll realize that you already are a "cosmic gazillionaire"... enjoy!

I don't understand why atheists are so desperate to downgrade religions. Science vs religions is apples and oranges comparison. This is not right place to discuss the wonders of universe or to perform atheism propaganda .

 

[DevilsAvocado]

... I'm not trying to say that we should all be depressed, or think that life is terrible because it could be so much better. That's a completely different issue, one of optimism vs. pessimism. What I am saying is that there is no reason to think of what happened to us as remarkable.

Agree!

... DA, I think, is talking about matters such as physical constants which allowed for the formation of matter other than a soup or something equally unfriendly to thermodynamic processes that we associate with life.

Sort of...


I think we’re talking past each other, basically saying the same thing, but in different "frameworks":

1) The Big Bang and the evolution of Universe.

2) The possible evolution of different life forms and level of intelligence.

3) The odds in "Lottery of Life" for you being you.​

There are enormous amounts of "peculiar coincidences" for life to arise on planet Earth, 3.5 billion years ago. But if we put these "peculiar coincidences" in the light of the fact that we know that there are at least 9 billion trillion other stars out there, and that most of them have several orbiting planets, and today 518 of these exoplanets has already been detected = the "strangeness" drops dramatically.

At 2 Dec 2010 Felisa Wolfe-Simon at NASA, announced that they have discovered a new form of life, the GFAJ-1 bacterium, that in lack of the usual phosphorus use arsenic in their DNA (normally toxic), which means that the normal chemical compounds of life as we know it on Earth is not mandatory = the "strangeness" drops even more.

Cells of bacterium GFAJ-1

Thus far no one can prove or disapprove that the Universe is infinite (most cosmologist think it is), but the possibility is there = "strangeness" is a dead parrot.

Therefore, as pointed out, life itself as a "phenomena" is not "strange" at all. One day we will (most) probably find out that the "life process" is as "natural" as when a protostar ignite at 10 million kelvins.

If there are other civilizations out there, absolutely nothing indicates that we are the most advanced. On the contrary, a majority are probably millions of years ahead of us.

Could there be real "Disney Worlds" out there? Where everyone looks like Angelina Jolie & Brad Pitt with the intelligence of Einstein², and fly on their private unicorn to work...?

I have absolutely no idea. But I imagine that the chances they look like green slime with the intelligence of Einstein¹⁰ is probably equal. It really doesn’t bother me.

What I’m talking about is an understanding and appreciation for having the enormous luck of being alive as a consciousness human on this Pale Blue Dot.

The combinations of your mother’s eggs & father’s sperms during one year of "activity" alone are approx 20 billions, i.e. there could have been many many different "mathematicsma", but it was you.

This is nothing but pure chance and maybe we should give it a thought now and then... and realize that paradise is right under our feet (even if it’s a terrible mess now and then).

That’s all.

 

[DevilsAvocado]

I don't understand why atheists are so desperate to downgrade religions. Science vs religions is apples and oranges comparison. This is not right place to discuss the wonders of universe or to perform atheism propaganda .

With all due respect, if you call scientific facts "atheism propaganda", I don’t think "the problem" is on my behalf.

If I said something scientifically wrong, please correct me.

 

[1MileCrash]

No one will be rude to you for coming out as an atheist, in my experience.

However, if you're like me, you'll still be annoyed by people. Many Christians think that Christianity is fact and that an atheist is someone who just hasn't found God yet. They also think that atheism is someone who secretly believes in God but denies his existence anyway.

When they say "I'll be praying for you" or "maybe one day he will touch your heart" that's really just code for "you're wrong, but I know if I get into an actual debate on the subject I'll lose, therefore passive-aggression is my best bet."

Christians do not view atheism equally. That is fact. An atheist is someone who hasn't found "THE TRUTH" yet.

 

[Kevin_Axion]

Your point is confusing, are you an atheist?

 

[1MileCrash]

Your point is confusing, are you an atheist?

Yes, what about my post is confusing?

 

[Kevin_Axion]

You ended saying

An atheist is someone who hasn't found "THE TRUTH" yet.

so it sounds as though you think atheists haven't found the truth. I wasn't able to distinguish if that was your perspective or the perspective of Christians. I'm an agnostic, whenever I discuss this topic with my English teacher, she always referenced Pi Patel in the Life of Pi. Pi states that being an atheist is better then being an agnostic because at least they stand for something in life. I don't think the book is correct because agnostics are those who "suspend judgement" (Bertrand Russell) until any reasonable evidence shows truth to one side. My point being the books tries to establish a dichotomy and scrutinize those that haven't been convinced either way. This middle way is actually a necessary component in life because everyone is born an agnostic (a neutrality point) and everyone doubts to a degree in order to become an atheist or a believer.

 

[bp_psy]

You ended saying so it sounds as though you think atheists haven't found the truth. I wasn't able to distinguish if that was your perspective or the perspective of Christians. I'm an agnostic, whenever I discuss this topic with my English teacher, she always referenced Pi Patel in the Life of Pi. Pi states that being an atheist is better then being an agnostic because at least they stand for something in life. I don't think the book is correct because agnostics are those who "suspend judgement" (Bertrand Russell) until any reasonable evidence shows truth to one side. My point being the books tries to establish a dichotomy and scrutinize those that haven't been convinced either way. This middle way is actually a necessary component in life because everyone is born an agnostic (a neutrality point) and everyone doubts to a degree in order to become an atheist or a believer.

So do you "suspend judgment" on the notion that there is pink three headed physically undetectable flying uranium unicorn behind your back?

 

[Gokul43201]

PLEASE, let's not make this an argument about theism vs atheism vs agnosticism. I would suggest that if anyone here wishes to do anything other than address the OP's situation, this is not the thread for it.

Personally, I grew up in a third world country with a long religious tradition, yet never had to experience the kind of situation the OP is going through, so I can't quite relate to it. Specifically, I never really had a "coming out" moment - somewhere along the way (during my teenage years, I guess), my parents figured out I was atheist, and didn't make much of a deal about it. Having lived in the US for the past decade, I can understand that the situation can be somewhat different for many families here, but can't really offer any good advice.

 

[Jasongreat]

No one will be rude to you for coming out as an atheist, in my experience.

However, if you're like me, you'll still be annoyed by people. Many Christians think that Christianity is fact and that an atheist is someone who just hasn't found God yet. They also think that atheism is someone who secretly believes in God but denies his existence anyway.

When they say "I'll be praying for you" or "maybe one day he will touch your heart" that's really just code for "you're wrong, but I know if I get into an actual debate on the subject I'll lose, therefore passive-aggression is my best bet."

Christians do not view atheism equally. That is fact. An atheist is someone who hasn't found "THE TRUTH" yet.

And vice versa, your post could have as easily said:(bolded parts were my changes)

However, if you're like me, you'll still be annoyed by people. Many Atheists think that Atheism is fact and that a christian is someone who just hasn't found the "truth" yet. They also think that a christian is someone who secretly believes in science but denies its existence anyway.

When they say "maybe one day science will open your mind" that's really just code for "you're wrong, but I know if I get into an actual debate on the subject no body will win, therefore aggression is my best bet."

Atheists do not view christianity equally. That is fact. A christian is someone who hasn't found "THE TRUTH" yet.

The whole athiest vs christian debate can never be won, since neither side has concrete verifiable proof(atleast not yet), only their opinion based on faith. Atleast agonstics are open minded about it. Does it really matter what ones religious beliefs are? It seems to me atheists as well as christians don't ever consider the other sides argument because they don't understand how they can believe what they do so they go about trying to downgrade the others views.

To the OP: Congratulations on the beginning of becoming your own person, and developing your own beliefs apart from what you were taught. Is there really a need to throw it in the face of your parents though, especially if they might react badly which will cause more hard feelings. When I was 12 or thirteen I told my parents I wasnt going to church anymore, that was the end of the discussion. We have never sat down and had a discussion about it, cause there is no need and nothing good would ever come of it. I would never be able to change their beliefs, and they could never change mine. Live and let live. You may be interested in reading Thomas Paines "Age of Reason", I enjoyed it.

 

[1MileCrash]

And vice versa, your post could have as easily said:(bolded parts were my changes)

You can grammatically say that... but it makes it factually wrong.

I don't know any atheists who view christians as these poor, hopeless people condemned to a magical furnace who desperately need to find.. "science" or whatever your god replacement constituted in order to go to an equally magical paradise in the sky.

The whole athiest vs christian debate can never be won, since neither side has concrete verifiable proof(atleast not yet)

Occam's razor. Don't throw god into the mix if we have scientific theories that work unaided. There is no reason to prove there is no god just as there is no way for you to prove that there is no invisible pink unicorn in my garage. If a scientific process shows that there must be a god, then that is proof of god's existence. If there is none, then there is no reason to assume there is one. If I make the claim that there is an invisible pink unicorn in my garage, the burden of proof falls on me to show its existence, not on you to show its non-existence (a task which you'd likely find impossible.)

FYI everyone is a little agnostic, it only makes sense. That is, any fundamental christian will deny having even a sliver of doubt or agnosticism in their beliefs. However, you'd be hard-pressed to find more than a couple of atheists who will make the claim that there is absolutely, positively, no god, and that the existence of one is impossible. THAT is the difference.

 

[nismaratwork]

PLEASE, let's not make this an argument about theism vs atheism vs agnosticism. I would suggest that if anyone here wishes to do anything other than address the OP's situation, this is not the thread for it.

Personally, I grew up in a third world country with a long religious tradition, yet never had to experience the kind of situation the OP is going through, so I can't quite relate to it. Specifically, I never really had a "coming out" moment - somewhere along the way (during my teenage years, I guess), my parents figured out I was atheist, and didn't make much of a deal about it. Having lived in the US for the past decade, I can understand that the situation can be somewhat different for many families here, but can't really offer any good advice.

I think the advice for coming out as ANYTHING, theist, atheist, gay, straight... whatever... should be handled with care. You balance your own need to live an open and honest life with your privacy and need for your family. Some people can't live a lie, even for a few days, some won't, and some see it as the easiest way. As you say Gokul, by the time these things are issues, usually everyone involved knows SOMETHING is going on.

Hell, one of my best friends is a gay man born to very traditional Hindi parents... who would be outraged. He has never told them, and he's glad to have them in his life, BUT he pays a price in fear and anxiety every time he visits them. He worries they'll find out, AND learn that he's been lying. In what has to be a fit of irony, another friend was out of the closet as gay, then came out as bisexual. His gay friends rejected him so quickly I thought he had body odor, but his straight friends who already accepted something different didn't seem to care.

Maybe that grandmother who you are convinced will tell you that now you burn in hell, would really just have faith that her god will be loving and merciful, or that you'll eventually come to her way of thinking. It may be that someone apparently laid-back will have the WORST reaction. I'd just stick with the advice that this is about a personal decision, and not a crusade to disprove or challenge their life.


1MileCrash & Jasongreat: I'll be frank where Gokul was police... take it to PM guys, or make a new thread... don't get this one locked because you can't stay on topic.

 

[nismaratwork]

Agree!
Sort of...I think we’re talking past each other, basically saying the same thing, but in different "frameworks":

1) The Big Bang and the evolution of Universe.

2) The possible evolution of different life forms and level of intelligence.

3) The odds in "Lottery of Life" for you being you.​

There are enormous amounts of "peculiar coincidences" for life to arise on planet Earth, 3.5 billion years ago. But if we put these "peculiar coincidences" in the light of the fact that we know that there are at least 9 billion trillion other stars out there, and that most of them have several orbiting planets, and today 518 of these exoplanets has already been detected = the "strangeness" drops dramatically.

At 2 Dec 2010 Felisa Wolfe-Simon at NASA, announced that they have discovered a new form of life, the GFAJ-1 bacterium, that in lack of the usual phosphorus use arsenic in their DNA (normally toxic), which means that the normal chemical compounds of life as we know it on Earth is not mandatory = the "strangeness" drops even more.Thus far no one can prove or disapprove that the Universe is infinite (most cosmologist think it is), but the possibility is there = "strangeness" is a dead parrot.

Therefore, as pointed out, life itself as a "phenomena" is not "strange" at all. One day we will (most) probably find out that the "life process" is as "natural" as when a protostar ignite at 10 million kelvins.

If there are other civilizations out there, absolutely nothing indicates that we are the most advanced. On the contrary, a majority are probably millions of years ahead of us.

Could there be real "Disney Worlds" out there? Where everyone looks like Angelina Jolie & Brad Pitt with the intelligence of Einstein², and fly on their private unicorn to work...?

I have absolutely no idea. But I imagine that the chances they look like green slime with the intelligence of Einstein¹⁰ is probably equal. It really doesn’t bother me.

What I’m talking about is an understanding and appreciation for having the enormous luck of being alive as a consciousness human on this Pale Blue Dot.

The combinations of your mother’s eggs & father’s sperms during one year of "activity" alone are approx 20 billions, i.e. there could have been many many different "mathematicsma", but it was you.

This is nothing but pure chance and maybe we should give it a thought now and then... and realize that paradise is right under our feet (even if it’s a terrible mess now and then).

That’s all.

OK, I understand what you mean. I guess I tend to focus on the most basic elements before I consider lifestyle, but you have a very good point. I for one, am glad that I'm not a lamprey!

 

[DevilsAvocado]

I for one, am glad that I'm not a lamprey!

Imagine an xterrestrial civilization of lampreys with the intelligence of Einstein¹⁰... and they ARE coming!

[PLAIN]http://www.cnsweb.org/digestvertebrates/Photos/LampreyPacificMouth%20CL04_1c.jpg

AHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

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[nismaratwork]

Imagine an xterrestrial civilization of lampreys with the intelligence of Einstein¹⁰... and they ARE coming!

[PLAIN]http://www.cnsweb.org/digestvertebrates/Photos/LampreyPacificMouth%20CL04_1c.jpg

AHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

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Oh man... You find the best pictures. At least I know what I'll be having a nightmare about tonight...

 

[Borek]

Oh man... You find the best pictures. At least I know what I'll be having a nightmare about tonight...

I can only sympathize, I have this recurring dream about eating leeches

 

[DevilsAvocado]

HAHAHAHALOLOLOLMAO!

Best 'smile' ever!

 

[DevilsAvocado]

Lamprey Saucer!

 

[nismaratwork]

I can only sympathize, I have this recurring dream about eating leeches

Oh wow... I'm, sorry man. REALLY sorry!

That is an amazing smiley however.

DA: Ha!