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chaoseverlasting
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Bad break up anyone?
Is Death the Ultimate Breakup?
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Discussion Overview
The discussion revolves around personal experiences and strategies for coping with breakups, including emotional support, activities to distract from pain, and the impact of new relationships. It touches on both romantic breakups and the more profound concept of loss through death.
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Main Points Raised
- One participant shares their recent breakup experience and seeks advice on coping strategies.
- Another suggests spending time with friends and family, engaging in activities like movies and exercise to manage stress and avoid making major decisions.
- A different participant emphasizes the benefits of physical activity, noting that it can help improve mood over time.
- One contributor mentions their current focus on studying for exams, which limits their ability to engage in physical activities as a coping mechanism.
- Another participant recounts their experience of finding solace in reading books during a breakup, indicating that it helped distract them from their feelings.
- One viewpoint proposes that moving on with new romantic interests can help alleviate the emotional burden of a past relationship.
- A later reply questions whether the experience of losing someone to death can be equated with a breakup, introducing a more complex emotional perspective.
Areas of Agreement / Disagreement
Participants express a variety of coping strategies, but there is no consensus on the best approach. Some advocate for physical activity and social engagement, while others highlight the importance of distraction through reading or new relationships. The discussion also introduces differing views on the nature of loss, particularly in comparing breakups to death.
Contextual Notes
The discussion reflects personal experiences and subjective interpretations of coping mechanisms, with no definitive solutions or universally applicable strategies provided. The emotional weight of breakups and loss is acknowledged but remains open to individual interpretation.
Who May Find This Useful
Individuals experiencing breakups or loss, those seeking emotional support strategies, and readers interested in personal coping mechanisms may find this discussion relevant.
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chaoseverlasting
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I just broke up with a girl I was seeing for almost a year and a half. Anyone have useful break up strategies? It's been a civil but heart wrenching break up and I'm a little bit in the dumps. I know this'll pass, but until it does, how do you guys deal with break ups?
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lisab
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Sorry to hear it, chaos.
So, spend more time with your friends or family. Got any little kids around, like nieces or nephews? Take them to the park, or something fun.
Movies are a good way to escape reality now and then. Also, exercise...that's my biggie, helps with stress management and helps keep depression from getting a foothold.
Go somewhere new, it helps to get away, even for an afternoon.
Don't make any big decisions until you're feeling better. Like, don't go join the Peace Corps (or some equivalent)
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So, spend more time with your friends or family. Got any little kids around, like nieces or nephews? Take them to the park, or something fun.
Movies are a good way to escape reality now and then. Also, exercise...that's my biggie, helps with stress management and helps keep depression from getting a foothold.
Go somewhere new, it helps to get away, even for an afternoon.
Don't make any big decisions until you're feeling better. Like, don't go join the Peace Corps (or some equivalent)
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chaoseverlasting said:
Time heals everything. Meanwhile, sports ! Lift some iron, hit the heavy bag, run .. whatever floats your boat. There is nothing like strong physical effort to evict anxiety and depression from your system.
There is a general up-regulation of most functions in the body, and it will have pretty fast effects on your "mood". And btw, you have to give it a chance, not decide after 2 practice sessions that sports are not for you. It aint magic, takes time to feel the effects, but they do come.
And keep open socially. You never know when someone will appear and a single look at her will erase whatever pain you felt and make you feel whole again .
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chaoseverlasting
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Yeah, I used to lift weights, but don't have the time for it anymore. I've started wall climbing once or twice a week. Right now, I have exams though; that pretty much means that I'm sitting by myself in a room hitting the books. Not the best way out.
Lisab, :D I don't think I'll ever join the peace corps, but yeah, I'm just trying to keep my head straight atm. Its been a couple of weeks, I just thought I'd be over this already!
Lisab, :D I don't think I'll ever join the peace corps, but yeah, I'm just trying to keep my head straight atm. Its been a couple of weeks, I just thought I'd be over this already!
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Last time I had a big breakup I bought a bunch of great books and read up a storm. Getting lost in the books was a great way to take my mind off of things.
I'm sorry you're going through this. Nothing worse than a breakup.
I'm sorry you're going through this. Nothing worse than a breakup.
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wasteofo2
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chaoseverlasting said:
Moving on, ie new chicks.
Seriously, the more time alone without any new female companionship, the more your long-term relationship blows up in your mind and consumes it. You will be amazed how quickly your mind and heart can move on, if only you allow them to by finding someone new.
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i_wish_i_was_smart
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Does having someone die on you count as a bad break up?