In QM we can look at two different update rules:
$$|\psi\rangle \mapsto U|\psi\rangle$$
with ##U## unitary. This evolution of the state vector is deterministic and preserves norm:
$$\|U|\psi\rangle\|=\||\psi\rangle\|$$
Alternatively, for say a measurement, each possible outcome is associated with an operator ##A## that salsifies ##A^{\dagger}A \leq \mathbb{1}##, the outcome occurs with probability:
$$p=\|A|\psi\rangle\|^{2}$$
and if it happens, the (normalized) output state is:
$$|\psi'\rangle=\frac{A|\psi\rangle}{\sqrt{p}} \qquad\text{(only defined if }p>0\text{)} $$
The distinction between these updates is rooted in information conservation. Unitary evolution rotates the state vector without changing its length, ensuring reversibility. In contrast, say a measurement operator ##A## acts as a projection. It effectively deletes the components of the superposition that contradict the observed outcome and because multiple initial states could theoretically map to the same post-measurement state or zero, the mapping is not injective, and therefore not invertible. This loss of information renders the process irreversible and the outcome probabilistic. Getting ##|\psi\rangle## back from ##|\psi'\rangle## is impossible in this case.
As an aside and not to go too far off into lala land but there are also incomplete measurements that are not fully deterministic for the entire system but still preserve a probabilistic reversibility. (This is an invertible non-unitary A, see:
https://qubit.guide/4.4-example-of-an-incomplete-measurement)
So for your example, if I have the singlet state and pass it through matched vertical polarizers, and we look specifically for coincidence counts, the probability is 0.
However, if I tell you no coincidence occurred, can you tell me with certainty that the input state was the singlet state? No. The input could have been the state ##|HH\rangle##, which also yields zero coincidences. Even though the outcome appears deterministic, the state vector's evolution is not injective and because multiple initial states map to the same outcome, the process is not invertible. Furthermore, because this operation is not trace-preserving for all density matrices, it does not qualify as deterministic physical evolution, distinguishing it from unitary evolution.
It projects to the zero vector only within the subspace of coincidence detections, simply meaning that outcome is impossible.
Physically the state is not gone. Since the singlet consists of anticorrelated polarizations passing it through matched vertical polarizers guarantees that exactly one photon is absorbed and one is transmitted. The field does not decay to vacuum it decays to a single-photon state.
If we expand the Hilbert space to include the polarizers, the state evolves unitarily (some nuance here with we need to include the environment as well if we want to be accurate, with
some doing heavy lifting) into an entangled superposition of one photon being absorbed and the other surviving:
$$|\psi_{final}\rangle \propto |\text{excited}\rangle_L \otimes |\text{photon}\rangle_R - |\text{photon}\rangle_L \otimes |\text{excited}\rangle_R$$
Now imagine some input state were both photons were absorbed. What happened to the state now?
It's gone. The state is undefined. If you only look at the transmitted state.
If we expand the Hilbert space to include the polarizers, the state evolves unitarily into something like, ##|\text{no photon}\rangle \otimes |\text{excited polarizer}\rangle##
I hope that helps, I could also be incorrect and I've glossed over a few things. Hopefully some other member will jump in and correct me if that's the case.