ECU's aren't hardwired, they are essentially flash memory with look up tables. As such they can be pretty easily changed.
In most cases setting a soft rev limit doesn't require a remap, you can plug in a laptop and some OEM (or OEM knock off) software and just type in a number. Not knowing the exact ECU, and how the ECU works means I can't give an exact answer.
Getting the right kit is prohibitively expensive for one job. Seeing the dealer or a 3rd party mapping company is your best bet.
Why on Earth do you want to set the limit so low anyway? You'll likely have trouble in top gear with that on any sensibly geared car.