Spinnor said:
Take the first family of fundamental fermions, u, d, e-, and ν. The u and d are more massive than the e- and the e- is more massive than the ν. The u and d interact via 4 forces, the e- interacts via 3 forces, and the ν interacts via 2 forces. The fermions that interact via the most forces are the more massive.
This is an intriguing observation which has been made in the past many times independently. And, if there were just one generation of fermions, the notion that their masses arise from their self-energy would seem plausible.
For example, the ratio of the electron mass to the neutrino mass is on the same order of magnitude as the ratio of the electromagnetic force (which impacts electrons but not neutrinos) to the weak force (which impacts both electrons and neutrinos), and the up and down quarks, which are subject to the strong force in addition to the electromagnetic and weak forces, are heavier than either of the leptons, which are not.
But, there are problems with the concept even at the first generation level.
First, the self-energy of the up quark and the down quark due to the strong force ought to be identical, they have the same weak force charge, and the up quark has a stronger electromagnetic charge in magnitude than the down quark. But, the down quark is more massive than the up quark, not the other way around. In fact, the down quark is almost twice as massive, despite having half the electromagnetic charge and despite the fact that self-energy from electromagnetism should be much smaller than self-energy from the strong force.
Indeed, even though the relative self-energy of the top quark to the bottom quark, in the third generation, and the up quark to the down quark, in the first generation, ought to be about the same, the top quark is more than 40 times as massive as the bottom quark, while the up quark has roughly half the mass of the down quark.
Second, the ratio of the up and down quark masses relative to the electron mass is much smaller than the ratio of the strength of the strong force to the strength of the electromagnetic force (the strong force is on the order of 137 times stronger than EM, but the quarks are on the order of 5 times more massive than the electron).
Furthermore, a mechanism that is based upon mass generation through self-energy does nothing to explain the masses of second and third generation particles, which have approximately the same self-energy as their less massive first generation counterparts, unlike the Higgs mechanism which explains the masses of all of the charged fermions in the SM. We also know that a fundamental mass that does not arise solely from interactions with fields is mathematically inconsistent with the SM (which doesn't itself mean that mass arising from self-energy is prohibited in the SM).
Basically, all of the best theories for figuring out why the fundamental particles have the masses that they do, and why, more generally, the SM constants have the values that they do are phenomenological and "numerological", i.e. observations like yours about relationships and patterns without any really solid theoretical basis.
This isn't to say that the fundamental particle masses in the SM appear to be simply random. There are some phenomenological relationships that seem to hold reasonably well (which are beyond the scope of this particular thread), and probably reflect an order with a source in a deeper theory, which is currently unknown to us. But, self-energy alone probably isn't the answer.