Okay, this is going to be a long *** thread and im sorry if anything is missspelled, english isnt my first language. I was looking for information about mensa and gotten at a thread on these forums .. some mensa members or ex members rather came here so i hope i gain some answers i can do something with. I'l write down the problem in a few, not really problem but well .. it is on my mind and im already happy when i written it down really.. i mainly have questions and it all feels very gazey so please dont start a discussion with me, thats not what im here for. I bet most know pdd nos. I have that, i concentrate badly, i take things exactly how its being told to me, and added with that my IQ is pretty low. Just to say i know my weaker points and i learned to life with them. I learned how to react on people saying what i do wrong because thats what i heard alot, i was slower and still am slower with everything i do. So i learned to life and learn from what people say to me, good or bad. I do believe that depending on how fast you learn, how you are and how you act, depends on how you will think on a older age. I learned to accept bad news .. i heard it alot so now it is almost as if i also want to hear what went wrong so i can improve myself. Now im explaining a bit further how i came at mensa, but i try to learn about it and understand it. I understand that members of mensa are to my feelings the opisite of the minus points of pdd nos. More concetration, learn faster, and so on. So also from what i read and my own personal feelings with it .. it isnt suprising how some mensa members i know react a bit different with negative reactions so to say, because either they dont hear it often or just aint used to it. It isnt ment as a attack but i just try to learn about mensa.. and if i read about it i read quite often that members with a higher IQ think differently and have more problems with reacting to negative feelings, thats okay to me. Now the thing is .. i learned in my life to react to negative feelings. To open my mouth and basicly ask what went wrong .. to ask how to do it better and really i might speak openly about it now.. i hate having to do that, but thats my problem. Since 4 months i got a girlfriend, to me, the opisite.. she has mensa. She told me she thinks differently and also shown that in some discussions a few times but she crops up alot so i just didnt really knew what to do with it, and just let it be. Basicly, ive learned to speak my mind, to say what bothers me, to tell what are my difficulitys and to talk about it with who i am to talk about improving it, i can call it my handicap. Now alot might will tell me it aint but to me it always will feel that way that my way of behaving and doing things depends on how good the person im with helps me with it, i can do things on my own just fine but in the end i often need anothers help, sucks. While my girlfriend.. lifed with not knowing how to react to negative feelings or what to do with them. Or when she gets something in her mind .. a feeling either good or bad, it feels alot more stronger because from what i understand if you can think easier, it stays in your mind easier and sticks with you longer (while for me, its in and out, with most of my feelings). So you can guess that bumps alot. I speak my mind and she doesnt knows how to go around with it. Neither can i really easily talk with her about it because what i say she often sees as something personal. So i though id be clever to talk with members of mensa about it, well not directly about it but i wanted to ask some questions .. soon i started about pdd nos. About questions towards mensa.. i gotten into a discussion. I got told members of mensa like discussions and well.. i dont like groups to much or pointing it out, but i cant avoid that, i seriously got shown members of mensa love discussions so i shouldnt ask my questions just by them. So i ask it here. You understand the problem in my head is that in my mind .. i need correction, i need to get told if it goes right or how to change it because i learn from others their words, from others their examples.. while my partner learns from reading and being on her own and sees things quickly as personal attacks, and then the fighting begins. I do want to talk with her about it but it aint that easy. I dont want to say people with pdd nos are all the same, or members of mensa are all the same .. but some things i do believe are minus and stronger points in thise "groups" to call it like that .. and well .. maybe you guys could give some tips or anything because my head if full with it and i dont really know how to go around with it anymore. Either way .. big relieve, my story is out X_x. Help would be apreciated and please move it to the correct section if this isnt the place, just this is the place where i saw the mensa thread i found trough google earlier today. Thanks in advance.