[itex]a_{ij}[/itex] doesn't denote a matrix. It denotes the component on row i, column j, of a matrix.
Since [tex]\begin{pmatrix}1 & 0 \\ 0 & 1\end{pmatrix}\begin{pmatrix}0 & 1 \\ -1 & 0\end{pmatrix}=\begin{pmatrix}0 & 1 \\ -1 & 0\end{pmatrix}\neq 0,[/tex] it's not true that the product of a symmetric and an antisymmetric matrix is =0. On the other hand, it is true that [itex]a_{ij}b_{ij}=0[/itex] (assuming that repeated indices are summed over). You should take some time to think about what the expression [itex]a_{ij}b_{ij}[/itex] really means, and what matrix operation(s) it involves.
Do you know the definition of matrix multiplication? If [itex]a_{ij}[/itex] denotes a component of a matrix A, and [itex]b_{ij}[/itex] denotes a component of a matrix B. Then what will you find on row i, column j of AB?