Science & Marriage: Impact on Each Other

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The discussion explores the relationship between science and marriage, focusing on how being a scientist may influence personal relationships and marriage dynamics. Participants share personal experiences, stereotypes, and perceptions regarding scientists and their social interactions, as well as the challenges faced when dating outside the scientific community.

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Main Points Raised

  • Some participants suggest that scientists may struggle with social interactions, potentially leading to negative influences on marriage.
  • Others share experiences of feeling inadequate in discussions with partners who are scientists, indicating that intellectual arguments can create friction.
  • A humorous perspective is presented about scientists impressing each other with their intellectual prowess and exchanging tokens of affection related to their field.
  • Concerns are raised about the compatibility of scientists dating non-scientists, with some arguing that differing interests may lead to challenges in relationships.
  • Some participants question the stereotype of scientists as socially awkward, arguing that many professionals face similar relationship challenges due to demanding careers.
  • There is a mention of the financial disparities between scientists and other professions, such as lawyers and doctors, which may affect relationship dynamics.
  • Several participants express that scientists are not fundamentally different from others in relationships, challenging the notion that they are uniquely problematic.
  • Humorous anecdotes about the behavior of scientists and their dating experiences are shared, highlighting the diversity of personalities within the scientific community.
  • Some participants express skepticism about the validity of generalizations regarding scientists and relationships, questioning the definitions of "scientists" and "normal people."

Areas of Agreement / Disagreement

Participants do not reach a consensus; multiple competing views remain regarding the impact of being a scientist on personal relationships, with some arguing for the uniqueness of scientists' challenges and others asserting that they are similar to anyone else.

Contextual Notes

Limitations in the discussion include the reliance on stereotypes and personal anecdotes, which may not represent the broader scientific community. There is also a lack of empirical data to support claims about relationship difficulties faced by scientists compared to others.

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how do these two affect each other?
(i think science have a negative influence on marriage because most of scientists have trouble in getting along with other people. most of them are not sociable enough?:-p )
 
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In my experience, the friction comes from one partner feeling inadequate in straightforward discussions (let alone full-on intellectual arguments). Bad stuff happens then. Sigh. Did I already mention the sigh part?
 
Well, when a girl scientist and a boy scientist like each other a lot, they try to impress one another with their intelectual prowess.

If their witty banter goes well they exchange tokens of their mutual affection (such as a calculator or a Schaum's outline).

If they stay together long enough, the boy scientist will eventualy realize that she is the only geek for him.

If she feels the same way, they get hitched, go on their lavish honeymoon to CERN, and nine months later they have little scientists.

THE END
 
from what i know, most of the time scientists don't agree with each other on some issues.(just go and check some of the posts in serious part of this forum). anyway if both of them would be scientist they might have not so much problems, but then poor their children.:cry:
but if a scientist want to date a normal person? a person who's not so interested in science? they can't get along well, can they?
 
En_lizard said:
...but if a scientist want to date a normal person?
Why would you ever want to date a normal person? :eek:
 
because 2 abnormal person is terrible!
 
What makes you think scientists aren't normal? Actually, the only difficulty I've seen with scientists having relationships is the same as anyone with a demanding career as a professional...the work hours never end, so it's tough finding someone who is willing to tolerate living with someone who isn't home very much. But, doctors and lawyers and corporate CEOs have the same types of problems.

Though, I do like melinda's version too. :smile: Though, the scientist couples I know are hoping their kids don't become scientists...they're already grooming them to be rock stars or investment bankers so they'll earn a lot early in their career and then get to retire early. :smile:
 
Moonbear said:
What makes you think scientists aren't normal? Actually, the only difficulty I've seen with scientists having relationships is the same as anyone with a demanding career as a professional...the work hours never end, so it's tough finding someone who is willing to tolerate living with someone who isn't home very much. But, doctors and lawyers and corporate CEOs have the same types of problems.
But scientists don't make money as much as lawyers and doctors, do they?:-p
 
The scientists I've dated were too wild and crazy. :bugeye:
 
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Scientists are passionate people. They tend not to get paid a lot and only exist in their current fields because they love what they do (heh).

Yeah, it can cause conflicts when a 'scientist' gets home from work and still/always will have work on the brain but most good people manage to find a balance. there's less of the intelectual conflicts if the two scientists in question are in different fields since its easier to well, accept that your partner knows tonnes more than you do about his/her field. Plus its all about mutual respect for one-anothers genius and if you can't handle that then chances are you won't have any friends either. :biggrin:
 
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Evo said:
The scientists I've dated were too wild and crazy. :bugeye:

Yeah, that's my problem. I'm too wild and crazy, and then when I meet someone, they don't believe me when I say I'm studying physics and engineering, I suppose dreadlocks don't give off an intellectual image. Kinda sucks. But then, I'd rather be wild and crazy and wait a bit longer for the right person than act normal and end up with someone normal. I need someone just as crazy as me.
 
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Are there any statistics to show that "scientists" (who are they anyway?) have a harder time with relationships then "normal people" (Who are they anyway?).

I think this whole topic is BS.
 
  • #13
The stereotypical nerd/geek scientist would obviously have trouble. But "scientist" is very broad, and vague, and the stereotype is not quite the same as your everyday scientist. A scientist would have just a hard time trying to understand the female species as anybody else.

I can see it now...

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  • #14
*melinda* said:
Well, when a girl scientist and a boy scientist like each other a lot, they try to impress one another with their intelectual prowess.
If their witty banter goes well they exchange tokens of their mutual affection (such as a calculator or a Schaum's outline).
If they stay together long enough, the boy scientist will eventualy realize that she is the only geek for him.
If she feels the same way, they get hitched, go on their lavish honeymoon to CERN, and nine months later they have little scientists.
THE END

*melinda* said:
Why would you ever want to date a normal person? :eek:

I'm gettin to like melinda... :biggrin: :wink: :devil: I got this calculator wristwatch for you, it even does square roots! And a diamond necklace, but I don't think you want it...
 
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If scientists are anything like the scientists in training (university students) it would be more than reasonable to say they're all crazy, act like kids, and a large portion of them are on drugs. One of the guys in my class was rushing through a physical chemistry lab so he could "get home in time for ninja turtles". This was not some maladjusted kid either; he's 26, very popular, and goes on more dates than anybody else I know.
The women of science of just as weird. I would love to eventually get married to a scientist :biggrin:
 
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Mk said:
The stereotypical nerd/geek scientist would obviously have trouble. But "scientist" is very broad, and vague, and the stereotype is not quite the same as your everyday scientist. A scientist would have just a hard time trying to understand the female species as anybody else.
So, it's only male scientists that are abnormal? :biggrin: :-p

Scientists are no different than anyone else when it comes to relationships. I don't really know why anyone thinks we would be.
 
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Moonbear said:
Scientists are no different than anyone else when it comes to relationships. I don't really know why anyone thinks we would be.
It's probably because scientists (and engineers...) overanalyze everything. Can you imagine sleeping with someone who says "ok now arch your back about 5 degrees more" as he holds a t-square in his left hand? That would be pretty crazy but it doesnt' seem too big a jump from the weird scientists I've seen.
 
  • #18
ShawnD said:
It's probably because scientists (and engineers...) overanalyze everything. Can you imagine sleeping with someone who says "ok now arch your back about 5 degrees more" as he holds a t-square in his left hand? That would be pretty crazy but it doesnt' seem too big a jump from the weird scientists I've seen.
Well, I don't know who you're hanging out with, but that sounds like a pretty extreme exaggeration. For the most part, if you were at a party with people from a variety of careers, I really doubt you'd be able to pick out the scientists in the crowd (unless there were several talking about science in a group).
 

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