Moonbear
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Math Is Hard said:Listen up, guys!
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20100909/ap_on_sc/eu_britain_male_dancing
Although I'm not sure if the conclusion should be that women are more attracted to flamboyant dancing. It could just be that dancers who move around a lot are generally perceived as better dancers than ones who don't move around so much. Isn't that common sense? (Elaine from Seinfeld excepted).
It could be that they're perceived as more confident. I fall into the category that thinks men who are willing to be a bit crazy on the dance floor are more attractive than those who don't dance, or barely move while dancing and look all awkward about being on a dance floor (the worst are the ones who won't get out on a dance floor until they're 3 sheets to the wind and then STILL look stiff). I like a guy who isn't afraid of just having fun and doesn't give a damn what other people who are watching think. And, no, they don't have to be better dancers, just willing to get out and move. When I lived in NJ, I used to love going to the parties with my Latino friends...the men all danced, and were raised to dance with a variety of partners throughout the night, not just clinging to one woman all night long. They ALL seemed hot hot hot (and we didn't even have alcohol at some of those parties). Of course, they weren't just moving a lot, they were damn good dancers! One of them was a dance instructor and is the one who taught me the basics of Latin dancing.
My boyfriend is flat out goofy on the dance floor. He knows how to dance somewhat (has had a few ballroom dancing lessons forced upon him in his life), so can lead well enough if the occasion requires, but we just have more fun being silly together. Yeah, I think it's fun when you get to do lots of twirling and dipping without being dropped, and couldn't care less if we aren't doing it right.
Dancing seems a lot like a courtship ritual, doesn't it? C'mon guys, strut your stuff.
As for Greg's caveat, I think part of that is the club environment. If a guy is making wildly flamboyant dance moves on a crowded dance floor, yeah, he might be a jerk. You need to know how to adjust your dancing to the space you have to dance in too.
Edit: By the way, that "bad dancing" avatar cracks me up! I just watched it three times and am really laughing aloud. I agree that my definition of flamboyant doesn't really fit with the "good dancing" example either. That was still pretty "contained" compared to what I've seen that I'd call flamboyant. But the bad dancing one doesn't even look like dancing, it looks like nervously pacing in circles. It's not quite so bad as what I expected though. I was thinking something like the guys that stand with arms stiffly at sides, maybe bent at the elbow, who dances mostly by shifting weight from one foot to the other, the way a little kid who needs to go potty "dances"...they often have that same "I really need to go potty" expression on their faces too.
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