I think I understand the position of
@vanhees71 , as well as your position, so I believe I can explain his position in a way you can understand.
There is a consistent way to protest against collapse without caring about ontology. To do this, the most important thing is to define words one is using. So let us give the definitions:
Definition 1:
Wave-function is a mental tool used by people who understand QM.
Comment: A 100 years ago wave functions did not exist.
Definition 2:
Wave-function update is a mental act by a person who understands QM. In this act, an old wave function is replaced by a new wave function, with intention to better represent the new knowledge acquired by new measurement results.
Definition 3:
Wave-function collapse is any sudden change of wave function which cannot be described by a Schrodinger-like equation
and cannot be classified as a wave-function update.
Comment: From those definitions it follows that collapse and update are mutually exclusive.
Now we need the
rules for using the wave function (according to the minimal ensemble interpretation):
Rule 1: ##|\psi|^2## is probability density.
Rule 2: If no results of measurements are known, ##\psi## should be considered as changing with time according to a Schrodinger-like equation.
Rule 3: When results of measurement are known, the wave function should be updated.
Comment: The rules are not the axioms. The purpose of the rules is to provide a practical user manual.
Observation 1: From rules and definitions above
it follows that wave function collapse should never be used.
Observation 2:
Nothing of the above depends on ontology.