Unanswered Questions: Uncovering Unexplained Occasions

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The discussion revolves around interpersonal communication issues, particularly the reluctance of individuals to express their feelings or concerns immediately when something is wrong. Participants explore the implications of such behavior, including feelings of discomfort and manipulation, while also touching on cultural differences in language and expression.

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Main Points Raised

  • Some participants suggest that individuals may withhold information about what is wrong because they fear it will sound trivial or stupid if expressed immediately.
  • Others argue that some people might enjoy the power dynamic created by keeping others in suspense about their feelings, which can lead to discomfort and emotional distress.
  • A participant notes that there are valid reasons for not discussing issues right away, such as needing time to process emotions or being preoccupied with other matters.
  • There is a mention of cultural differences in language, with some participants referencing the term "hump" and its interpretations, indicating a potential misunderstanding or translation issue.
  • One participant humorously references a Mel Brooks movie, suggesting a light-hearted take on the drama of interpersonal conflicts.

Areas of Agreement / Disagreement

Participants express a mix of agreement and disagreement regarding the motivations behind withholding information about emotional issues. While some see it as manipulative behavior, others acknowledge that there can be legitimate reasons for not addressing problems immediately. The discussion remains unresolved with multiple perspectives presented.

Contextual Notes

There are references to cultural interpretations of language that may affect understanding in the discussion, highlighting the complexity of communication across different backgrounds.

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You know some thing is wrong, but he/she will not tell you what, may be
you forgot some occasion, but why is it they refuse to tell you at the time?
may be you find out a week later, then you have to feel bad or not.
 
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wolram said:
You know some thing is wrong, but he/she will not tell you what, may be
you forgot some occasion, but why is it they refuse to tell you at the time?
may be you find out a week later, then you have to feel bad or not.

Because they think it would sound stupid if they told you right away. Al least that's what I think.
 
Some people are into the power-play and if they can keep you uncomfortable and upset for days and THEN choose the time to "resolve" the "problem", it makes them happy and empowered at your expense. It's best to avoid such people, if you can, and NEVER willingly get into a personal relationship with them. Life is too short to spend it with manipulative jerks.
 
wolram said:
You know some thing is wrong, but he/she will not tell you what, may be
you forgot some occasion, but why is it they refuse to tell you at the time?
may be you find out a week later, then you have to feel bad or not.

and somehow during this delema, the first word that came to your mind while writing the topic title was 'hump'?
 
Ki Man said:
and somehow during this delema, the first word that came to your mind while writing the topic title was 'hump'?

That what we call it round here when some one is less than angry, but
more than off hand, does it have another interpretation?
 
OOps, i never knew that meaning of the word:blushing:
 
Yet another thread lost in translation between British and American. :smile:

I have to agree with turbo, that if someone won't tell you what's wrong when something clearly is wrong, and you've asked, and then waits days before springing on you what the problem was (in other words, yes, there really was a problem, you didn't just imagine something, and they weren't just in a bad mood for no particular reason or something unrelated to you), then I'd steer clear of them as much as possible. Whether they're being intentionally manipulative, or just plain weird, it's not good to have to deal with people like that.

Of course, sometimes someone does say something like, "I don't want to talk about it right now," which isn't the same as saying, "nothing's wrong." Then, that's a valid answer...maybe they know they're over-reacting, or just need time to calm down, or are so busy with other things they think they'll say something wrong if they rush to explain the problem, etc., so want to talk about it at a better time.
 
I blame the hormones
 
Oh the drama! Reminds me of one of my favorit Mel Brooks movies, History of the World part 1.

HUMP OR DEATH !
 
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hypatia said:
HUMP OR DEATH !

i really hope that doesn't imply what it think it does:rolleyes:
 
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Ki Man said:
i really hope that doesn't imply what it think it does:rolleyes:
Well, "It's good to be king!"
 
  • #12
ahahahhhah, indeed it is!
 

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