DParlevliet said:
The double slit measures the wave, so there is only the wave, not the particle. So I don't ask what the particle is, I don't ask what the wave is, I just ask about its shape.
This
is good enough for me. It is an accurate image of the formulae (Schrodinger solution, Wiki). But what is the Schrodinger solution for a photon. The geometry is explained before.
So finally: the interference pattern shows that the shape of the wave of one photon is stable and predictable, when seen as an approximation. Does anyone know this shape?
The animation that you have have there is like an artistic representation of photon. Let's take a look at what you can take from it and what you shouldn't.
Firstly it's one dimensional. Real photons exist in three dimensions. The vertical dimension is what they're using to depict the quantities that it's carrying, like when you plot a value on a graph.
The envelope (the Gaussian), is a plausible depiction, for the probability of finding a photon at a particular positon. It's just an example. Not all photons can be found with that probability distribution.
The envelope is moving forward, indicating that it represents a freely moving particle, with a precise momentum. If the photon were to interact geometrically or there were uncertainty about its momentum, that envelope would be different. Though in this case, the depiction is one dimensional, so the momentum must be a constant, though there are arrangements that could split it.
The wave pattern in the middle of the envelope is an artisic representation of the wavelength of the electromagnetic radation transmitted by that photon. That wavelength is relevant when the photon interacts with other photons and charged particles.
Because the photon has zero rest mass and travels at the speed of light, there is no solution to the Schrodinger equation for a photon.
A photon is a particle of electromagnetic radation. The understanding of this predates quantum physics. It can tell you more about what photons actually carry, than you would typically learn from quantum mechanics
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Electromagnetic_radiation.
I know this doesn't answer the question in the manner which you'd like. Perhaps, it would be more meaningful to ask about the geometrical arrangements that do and don't give rise to single photon self-interference due to time seperation.
Finally, I'd like to say: don't be demoralised, if you're struggling to get your head around it. Learning about QM is as much about unlearning as it is learning.