Say Alice and Bob roll the dice and they notice that the numbers match up.
That would be the same odds as one person rolling three doubles in a row - (1/36)(1/36)(1/36)=1/46656
People win lotteries with much longer odds all the time - so by your friends own argument, and taking into account the size of the Universe, the situation you are thinking of is certain!
But really your friend has just plucked a number out of the air.
The approach is not correct - because the die rolls are independent and we don't know that the existence of us does not mean the existence of another like us is more likely. Maybe it's more like cockroaches: if you see one, there must be lots!
To treat the matter more seriously:
You have to define "similar", and then look at the data we have to see what affects the course of evolution.
We only have empirical evidence of one evolving system of life - this one.
We don't know for sure that this system is typical - but we have no particular evidence that the course of evolution here is not typical either. We are still gathering data on that one - but we can make do with what we have and see what that indicates so far.
In Earth's history, there have been a series of major extinction events which have had a large impact on the course of evolution. Considering the biodiversity limiting effect (look up "Cambrian explosion" for example) it is easy to imagine that these events could have selected quite a different set of body-plans, say, therefore, setting evolution on a wildly different course.
However - also see "parallel evolution".
It is also reasonable that similar ecological niches can be filled by similar creatures.
This is where the definition of "similar" comes in.
Would an Australian Marsupial Wolf be counted as "similar" to the Timber Wolf for the purposes of this debate? You can look them up to see what I'm talking about. Perhaps, if Australia had been left alone for longer there may have been marsupial versions of homonids? Bottom line: we don't know.
Even with radically different body-plans surviving an extinction event, biodiversity often returns to the pre-extinction levels. It may well have been, had events come out differently, that there still would be upright bipeds occupying the position of "top intelligence" on earth.
The possibility of parallel evolution with the limits of physics suggest that intelligent, self aware, life forms, who similar enough to modern Earth Humans that we would say "gosh they are so amazingly like us aren't they?" are more likely that we would initially expect. It certainly means that not just anything can happen. It's probably much more likely than, say, giant intelligent amoebas.
Still - I'd put it as less likely than two people rolling a die three times and getting the same sequence of numbers.
Something else important to remember is the size of the Universe.
Even a very small chance event can happen given a very large number of opportunities to happen.
The chance of a star forming/ending up in a particular volume of space would have been pretty small - but there is a LOT of space so it is certain that stars will appear somewhere.
One of the things we have learned in science over the years is that the way to bet is that we are not unique or special. i.e. the Earth is not the center of the Universe, the galaxy, or even the Solar system. Even the Earth and Moon are best described as orbiting each other (about their common center of gravity) rather than the Moon orbiting the Earth. We, ourselves, are another kind of animal. And so on. Basically so many of the ways that humans have counted themselves unique or special or "chosen" through history have turned out to be wrong in some important way - the rest remaining untested - that the smart money is on the existence of intelligent life "out there" that is like us in some important way.
It's also on us not finding it any time soon.