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This is silly, you can say it's silly and I respect that. It also seems like a thread that I would roll my eyes at and say "if you have to ask this, you probably are."
The situation is as follows. I'm a second-year graduate student working in an experimental lab. There is a postdoc here who is very hostile to me and me only, to the point of actually shouting at me. This is a personality clash with me, since I cry easily when yelled at. I am still learning so when I do/say something wrong, he just screams "NO!" and is very frustrated with me (which I understand, this is justified), or when I go to find him I get a "what do YOU want?"
Now, all of this is fine, great, dandy. People have clashes, postdocs get frustrated, nothing new. However, I cannot control my crying when somebody yells at me (yes, I'm a baby! haha) but I find it SO embarrassing to have this be a daily occurrence. Were it possible to speak to someone higher up I would, but having spoken to my PI only once in the 4 months I've been here it seems like a poor idea.
The only thing I can come up with is to switch groups, but I really enjoy the work that I do and cannot think of another lab that I would be as interested in.
I'm hoping that anyone here can give me advice. This has gotten to the point where I dread going to work in the morning which is very unlike me.
The situation is as follows. I'm a second-year graduate student working in an experimental lab. There is a postdoc here who is very hostile to me and me only, to the point of actually shouting at me. This is a personality clash with me, since I cry easily when yelled at. I am still learning so when I do/say something wrong, he just screams "NO!" and is very frustrated with me (which I understand, this is justified), or when I go to find him I get a "what do YOU want?"
Now, all of this is fine, great, dandy. People have clashes, postdocs get frustrated, nothing new. However, I cannot control my crying when somebody yells at me (yes, I'm a baby! haha) but I find it SO embarrassing to have this be a daily occurrence. Were it possible to speak to someone higher up I would, but having spoken to my PI only once in the 4 months I've been here it seems like a poor idea.
The only thing I can come up with is to switch groups, but I really enjoy the work that I do and cannot think of another lab that I would be as interested in.
I'm hoping that anyone here can give me advice. This has gotten to the point where I dread going to work in the morning which is very unlike me.