Can Game Theory Explain Relationship Dilemmas?

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The discussion revolves around a relationship crisis triggered by a girlfriend's admission of an "accidental" kiss with a coworker. The boyfriend expresses his frustration over the lack of a clear explanation and the evolving nature of her story, which raises trust issues. He reflects on the implications of her actions, feeling that they indicate a deeper problem in their relationship, particularly her need for attention due to their limited time together. The conversation highlights the challenges of trust and communication in relationships, with many contributors agreeing that the girlfriend's behavior is a red flag and indicative of potential future issues. Ultimately, the boyfriend decides to end the relationship, believing it to be the right choice given the circumstances. The discussion underscores the importance of trust and the potential consequences of unresolved relationship dynamics, particularly when one partner feels neglected.
  • #31
deckart said:
:biggrin: See, Gale17 is aware of your breakup and is already hitting on you.

She just turned 18 and she's already going for the older men. TSA learned his lesson - stay away from the younguns.
 
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  • #32
loseyourname said:
She just turned 18 and she's already going for the older men. TSA learned his lesson - stay away from the younguns.

nah, I've always liked older men, sides, stat'ape told me ages ago he liked older ladies. but hey, lyn... what's goin on?
 
  • #33
Gale said:
nah, I've always liked older men, sides, stat'ape told me ages ago he liked older ladies. but hey, lyn... what's goin on?

Yeah, I got the feeling you've always liked older men. Only now you can legally pursue them.

And what do you mean StatutoryApe told you before that he preferred older women? Are you insinuating that you've actually tried to pick him up? Shame on you, Gale. (insert indignant emoticon that I refuse to use here)
 
  • #34
Gale? Is that you?
 
  • #35
loseyourname said:
Yeah, I got the feeling you've always liked older men. Only now you can legally pursue them.

And what do you mean StatutoryApe told you before that he preferred older women? Are you insinuating that you've actually tried to pick him up? Shame on you, Gale. (insert indignant emoticon that I refuse to use here)
Knowing me I may very well have said something to her and added a disclaimer so that she did not think that I was picking up on her.
 
  • #36
Ha ha. You often come across as if you are hitting on people you talk to, do you?
 
  • #37
heh, you its me zooby. and i may have considered hitting on mr. ape. i don't remember how it came about. but I could always legally pursue older men, they just couldn't pursue me back.
 
  • #38
It sounds almost as if this has come up before...
 
  • #39
Gale said:
heh, you its me zooby.
I didn't recognize you at first. Done something new with your hair?
 
  • #40
Maybe she's been using a dinglehopper?

Hrm... maybe new seashells?
 
  • #41
Hurkyl said:
Maybe she's been using a dinglehopper?

Hrm... maybe new seashells?
:smile: You have the soundtrack, don't you? And you sing along with it in the shower? I knew it!
 
  • #42
not to retrack the offtrack convo, but..


good call ditching the girl. She got lonely after 3 days? Don't leave for a week or she'll get married and have kids while you're gone :rolleyes:

I can tell you from what I've seen and my own personal experience that dating a girl more than 4 or 5 years younger than you never goes well, at least until you're in your late 20's early 30's. Too much grief.
 
  • #43
Sounds like you did the right thing to me TSP (can I be that informal with you? It's hard to type out your full name with the 2 finger hunt and peck method :smile: ). It sounds like she was playing mind games with you, trying to get you to break it off with her so she can blame you for the whole thing (which she probably did anyway). Seem like instead of being mature enough to handle it something like "listen, I'm not sure about this relationship any more and I think we should make it more casual and start seeing other people" she goes and creates a situation where she hopes you'll fly off the handle.

I don't think it makes you cold hearted to be analytical like you were. I say good job at keeping your cool, not thinking with the wrong part of your anatomy:wink: and throwing a big logical, non-emotional monkey wrench in her plans :biggrin:
 
  • #44
TheStatutoryApe said:
So last night my girlfriend decides to tell me that she "accidentally" kissed some guy at her work.

It's not an "accident". That's a red flag. Can you imagine being married to her and going for a few days then all of a sudden something "accidental" happens. Yikes.

Choose wisely.
 
  • #45
Thank you everyone for your input. She's definitely been kicked to the curb.

LYN said:
Ha ha. You often come across as if you are hitting on people you talk to, do you?
Yeah, probably. I believe I accidentally flirted with you once even.

honestrosewater said:
:smile: You have the soundtrack, don't you? And you sing along with it in the shower? I knew it!
Hurkyl I want my soundtrack back! I haven't gotten to listened to Under The Sea in forever! :mad:
 
  • #46
TheStatutoryApe said:
Back to flirting with older women for me!
If you want to borrow one for a while, I need a rest. Mine's 55, with a positively frightening sex drive.

Sorry it happened, but I agree with the general consensus. You made the right move, in a graceful manner. She clearly wanted out, without taking the responsibility for it. If you hadn't reacted as you did, her 'accidents' would have continued to escalate until you had no choice.
 
  • #47
You have the soundtrack, don't you? And you sing along with it in the shower? I knew it!
Borrowed the movie from a friend. :-p (And watched it/listened to it far too much in the past two weeks)
 

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