Can Love Overcome Math Anxiety in Relationships?

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The discussion revolves around a person's anxiety about their math skills, particularly in the context of a relationship with a mathematically inclined partner. The individual expresses feelings of inadequacy and fear of being perceived as "stupid" due to their struggles with math, despite having a degree in the medical field where math is not a primary focus. They share a poem they wrote for their partner, hoping to impress him with their creativity rather than their mathematical abilities. Responses from others suggest that the partner likely appreciates the effort and creativity behind the poem rather than focusing on math skills. There is also a lighthearted commentary on the relevance of math topics in their conversations, questioning why such discussions arise in a romantic context. Overall, the thread highlights themes of self-doubt, the importance of creativity in relationships, and the misconception that math skills define intelligence.
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ok i need to warn you people I am stupid..i really can't do math, i can't do long division. i just feel all cold and clammy and my brain shuts off. i don't know why.
anyway a few years ago i met this really brilliant guy. he's an engineer, aerospace or something like that. we really like each other and stuff. i think he knows math isn't my "forte" but he doesn't know how really dumb and stupid i am with it. of course, i don't show it. i haven't managed to perform fractions or long divisions for him. it makes me really nervous when he talks about it cause i don't know what to say. anyway i have a degree myself but I am on the medical field and we weren't that focused in maths anyway (thank GOD). if i wasnt so stupid i'd be a doctor though :( this is the only problem in my life that i haven't managed to solve. i have a great social life and i never had trouble forming or keeping relationships (platonic or romantic).

ok enough w/ the pity party. so i was making this poem for him (cause he said he liked my other ones and i really don't know how else to impress him w/ my mind/intellect (or lack thereof)) so here it goes..on the first stanza:

so if you really insist being my theorem, and i your corollary
please just tell everyone that I am your one and only!

(does this sound funny? )

im kinda scared cause i don't want him to start suspecting that I am really stupid.: (
i really like him a lot lottt..

thanks.

abby.

p.s. just writing here makes my hands feel cold and clammy
 
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morninglover1 said:
ok i need to warn you people I am stupid..i really can't do math, i can't do long division. i just feel all cold and clammy and my brain shuts off. i don't know why.
anyway a few years ago i met this really brilliant guy. he's an engineer, aerospace or something like that. we really like each other and stuff. i think he knows math isn't my "forte" but he doesn't know how really dumb and stupid i am with it. of course, i don't show it. i haven't managed to perform fractions or long divisions for him. it makes me really nervous when he talks about it cause i don't know what to say. anyway i have a degree myself but I am on the medical field and we weren't that focused in maths anyway (thank GOD). if i wasnt so stupid i'd be a doctor though :( this is the only problem in my life that i haven't managed to solve. i have a great social life and i never had trouble forming or keeping relationships (platonic or romantic).

ok enough w/ the pity party. so i was making this poem for him (cause he said he liked my other ones and i really don't know how else to impress him w/ my mind/intellect (or lack thereof)) so here it goes..on the first stanza:

so if you really insist being my theorem, and i your corollary
please just tell everyone that I am your one and only!

(does this sound funny? )

im kinda scared cause i don't want him to start suspecting that I am really stupid.: (
i really like him a lot lottt..

thanks.

abby.

p.s. just writing here makes my hands feel cold and clammy

I would say it needs a little tweaking still, but I'm sure he would appreciate that you are trying to write a poem about math for him. That's very sweet.
 
Not entirely sure why he would be talking about long division or fractions, anyways...
 
morninglover1 said:
i haven't managed to perform fractions or long divisions for him. it makes me really nervous when he talks about it cause i don't know what to say.

sandy.bridge said:
Not entirely sure why he would be talking about long division or fractions, anyways...

Really! Why talk about fractions and long division when one could talk about quaternions. Heck, William was so excited about quaternions that he carved them into the stones on a bridge while on a romantic moonlit walk with his wife.

Admittedly, their marriage probably wasn't the greatest. In fact, he usually described his wife to others as "not at all brilliant". But at least he was able to complete a paper on "Theory on Systems of Rays" during his honeymoon.

But, to get back on topic, if you could get the phrase, "i^2 = j^2 = k^2 = ijk = -1", into your poem somehow, I think it would be a real hit. I realize that phrase doesn't have the greatest romantic history, but that has to be an aberration, as that phrase just has to work - I just don't see how it couldn't!
 
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Morninglover1, why do you think he will find you stupid simply because you are not excellent at math? Heck, I'd have to pop open a dictionary to understand some of the words in your poem, so does that make me stupid? Also, if you're talking about long division during your dates or conversations I think I might be worried for you unless both of you were Math teachers!
 
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