AlexV123 said:
But what I am asking is can't the wave function collapse be real and not just apparent?
You see, it all depends on what you mean by "real". Because it seems that the wave function does not have the same reality status as chairs and tables.
But if you ask whether it can be considered as an objective rather than subjective event, then the answer is "yes". It can. There are physicists who consider it as such, though there are also other physicists who disagree. You do not have to split the universe to collapse the wave function. And you do not have to split your mind. Simple objective collapse models are being used for instance in quantum optics. To quote from http://www.gap-optique.unige.ch/Publications/PDF/PenroseDiosi.pdf" by D. Salart, A. Baas, J.A.W. van Houwelingen, N. Gisin, and H. Zbinden, Group of Applied Physics, University of Geneva, PRL 100, 220404 (2008)
"When is a quantum measurement finished? Quantum theory has no definite answer to this seemingly innocent question and this leads to the quantum measurement problem. Various interpretations of quantum physics suggest opposite views. Some state that a quantum measurement is over as soon as the result is secured in a classical system, though without a precise characterization of classical systems. Decoherence claims that the measurement is finished once the information is in the environment, requiring a near cut between system and environment and arguments assuring that the system and environment will never recohere. Others claim that it is never over, leading to the many worlds interpretation [1]. Note that none describe how a single event eventually happens. And there are more interpretations and many variations on each theme. In practice this measurement problem has not yet led to experimental tests, though progress in quantum technologies bring us readily closer to such highly desirable tests [2].
Another possibility, supported among others by Penrose [3] and Diosi [4] (see also the useful review [5]), assumes a connection between quantum measurements and gravity."
There are also other possibilities.