Dealing with Jealousy: How to Cope

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The discussion revolves around the feelings of jealousy in relation to perceived superiority in intelligence and appearance. Participants explore their personal experiences and coping mechanisms regarding jealousy, as well as the impact of comparing oneself to others in various contexts.

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Main Points Raised

  • Some participants express feelings of jealousy towards those they perceive as smarter or more attractive, while others acknowledge their jealousy but emphasize their hard work and contentment with their own achievements.
  • There are differing views on whether it is beneficial to rank people based on intellect or appearance, with some arguing that such comparisons are meaningless.
  • Several participants suggest that instead of succumbing to jealousy, one should draw inspiration from those they admire and focus on self-improvement.
  • Some participants assert a strong sense of self-worth and confidence, claiming they do not feel inferior to others.
  • There are humorous and sarcastic remarks about the nature of superiority and the idea of creating a "test" to measure one's worth against others.

Areas of Agreement / Disagreement

The discussion features multiple competing views on jealousy and self-perception, with no clear consensus on how to best cope with feelings of jealousy or the validity of comparing oneself to others.

Contextual Notes

Participants express varying definitions of superiority and the criteria they use for comparison, which may depend on personal values such as intellect, appearance, or achievements. There is also an acknowledgment of the potential toxicity of jealousy, but opinions on its impact and management differ.

Who May Find This Useful

Individuals interested in personal development, emotional well-being, and social dynamics may find the insights shared in this discussion relevant.

How do you feel about others' superiority?

  • I understimate his superiority in the way that people and myself think s/he's not special at all.

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So how do you feel about those people who're naturally superior to you? I mean those people who are smarter or prettier than you? Those who just draw attention to themselves when they step somewhere because of their beauty or make you admire their wisdom and intelligent when they say something?
 
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I have what i have, i am jealous of people that have more, but i know i work
as hard as i can to get my money so it is a small jealousy, and i do not really want much anyway.
 
People? Better then me?
 
Pengwuino said:
People? Better then me?

The possibilities are endless :rolleyes:
 
Hello Lisa,

Do you rank persons according to their intellect or appearance? What are your criteria then?

Jealousy can be "poisonous" and it's a safe bet that nothing good arises from it.

Whenever I meet other persons and notice that they have a certain "talent" so to speak I'm definitely not trying to let jealousy arise. The only thing I want to do is to draw inspiration from them and have a nice time. And in the end everyone is able to give something in return as well. :smile:

Finally: I didn't vote.

Well if you had put this smiley: -> :smile: on the list I might have not been able to resist. :wink:


Regards,

nazzard
 
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wolram said:
The possibilities are endless :rolleyes:

anythings possible...

but that's improbable...
 
Pengwuino said:
anythings possible...

but that's improbable...

Sherlock Holmes.:-p
 
I voted the same as the Penguin. Scary... :rolleyes:
 
J77 said:
I voted the same as the Penguin. Scary... :rolleyes:

Only i can vote for the greatest position. Get off.
 
  • #10
Work hard to be better than them, or accept that you can't and move on. That's my philosophy...at least, it is when I can help it...o:)
 
  • #11
One thing I've noticed is that I am the greatest person on this planet. Why is this? I stand for everything I believe in! Everything I would ever want in me is in me! I am perfect and I strive to be myself. It's a self-perpetuating confidence booster.
 
  • #12
People that vote for opption one are ego maniacs and by definition should be excluded
.
 
  • #13
Pengwuino said:
People? Better then me?
You're right! In your case penguins since it's not ok to compare things that almost has nothing to do with each other.:-p
 
  • #14
I find more-experienced people to be very useful friends (choice #7). I refrain from using "naturally superior" or "inferior" - seems meaningless, even pathological.
 
  • #15
Lisa! said:
So how do you feel about those people who're naturally superior to you?

One shouldn't care about that, really...

I mean those people who are smarter or prettier than you?

I have met smarter people, again i don't care...BUT PRETTIER ? Nono, i have not yet met such people, sorry...

Those who just draw attention to themselves when they step somewhere because of their beauty or make you admire their wisdom and intelligent when they say something?

I only respect such people. I admire WA Mozart, Marlon Brando, Pete Sampras, Luciano Pavarotti and Jack Nicholson. These are my idols (for many years now) because i would want to be like them.

marlon
 
  • #16
I dislike arrogance I know that much, four people so far are currently trying to draw attention to their selves and away from their inferiority complexes, I think it's known as overcompensating :-p :biggrin:

I voted for don't really care that much, it's not like you can't work to improve yourself using someone else as your inspiration.
 
  • #17
So Lisa, what's this all about, some new girl in class ?

I admire WA Mozart, Marlon Brando, Pete Sampras, Luciano Pavarotti and Jack Nicholson. These are my idols (for many years now) because i would want to be like them.
You want to be a tennis superstar in a movie and compose and sing an opera for the background score ? Hmm.. not bad at all .:smile:

I voted "Who cares? I just do my best to succeed at what I am good at."
 
  • #18
arunbg said:
You want to be a tennis superstar in a movie and compose and sing an opera for the background score ? Hmm.. not bad at all .:smile:
:smile:
Yep, that's about it...you just defined the very essence of my life

marlon
 
  • #19
I am the best.
 
  • #20
Gagan A said:
I am the best.
Clearly a case of "lack of inspiration".

marlon
 
  • #21
Schrödinger's Dog said:
I dislike arrogance I know that much, four people so far are currently trying to draw attention to their selves and away from their inferiority complexes, I think it's known as overcompensating :-p :biggrin:

Make that 5 of us

I mean them...
 
  • #22
Pengwuino said:
Make that 5 of us

I mean them...
:smile:

OK, imagine if you could do a test to show that you were in fact better than everyone else, they could call it the J test, or the Jesus test :smile:
 
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  • #23
Schrödinger's Dog said:
:smile:

ok, imagine if you could do a test to show that you were in fact better than everyone else, they could call it the J test, or the Jesus test :)

I invented the jesus test
 
  • #24
I think it's awesome, but I find myself to be very unique. It would be very rare that I find someone like me but better.

I can get a tad jealous if someone gets better grades or makes a little bit more money, but I think too happy with myself to make anything of it. I can try and point out a negative about the person to bring myself up, like he's not as good looking or something stupid. I don't even do that. It's like I'm already aware that I'm good.
 
  • #25
I don't poitn out negative things because its much easier to point out all the perfect things about me. I am perfect. Arguing it is futile. All hail penguin! All hail penguin! Hail! Hail!
 
  • #26
Pengwuino said:
I don't poitn out negative things because its much easier to point out all the perfect things about me. I am perfect. Arguing it is futile. All hail penguin! All hail penguin! Hail! Hail!

Sure, it's easy to point out the positives when you don't have any. :-p

Just playing. :biggrin:
 
  • #27
I think most of hte #6 options really mean to put #3
 
  • #28
nazzard said:
Hello Lisa,

Do you rank persons according to their intellect or appearance? What are your criteria then?
It could be everything. Family, money, education,... And you as for me appearance and imtellect are what I usually notice when I meet someone!:blushing:
Jealousy can be "poisonous" and it's a safe bet that nothing good arises from it.
:approve:


Anyone a victim of jealousy here?:rolleyes:
Whenever I meet other persons and notice that they have a certain "talent" so to speak I'm definitely not trying to let jealousy arise. The only thing I want to do is to draw inspiration from them and have a nice time. And in the end everyone is able to give something in return as well. :smile:

Finally: I didn't vote.

Well if you had put this smiley: -> :smile: on the list I might have not been able to resist. :wink:


Regards,

nazzard
You could choose "That would be nice to make friend with him/her. :smile:"

arunbg said:
So Lisa, what's this all about, some new girl in class ?
I am THAT new girl. Well at work NOT class...:-p
 
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  • #29
Pengwuino said:
I think most of hte #6 options really mean to put #3
Now you're going to make me jealous of a thinker penguin...o:)
 
  • #30
nazzard said:
Whenever I meet other persons and notice that they have a certain "talent" so to speak I'm definitely not trying to let jealousy arise. The only thing I want to do is to draw inspiration from them and have a nice time. And in the end everyone is able to give something in return as well. :smile:

Finally: I didn't vote.
Same here. I try to learn from others, and emulate their best characteristics. When I meet or work with someone who is exceptionally bright and productive, I try to learn what they do that makes them so. I can't artificially increase my IQ, but I can morph my work habits to be more productive and more effective. When I meet someone on the motocross track who is faster and smoother than I am (happens a lot, I'm afraid), I watch and learn and get a little faster myself.

I didn't vote either -- you omitted the choice that nazzard and I would have made. :rolleyes:
 

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