Dealing with Jealousy: How to Cope

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Discussion Overview

The discussion revolves around the feelings of jealousy in relation to perceived superiority in intelligence and appearance. Participants explore their personal experiences and coping mechanisms regarding jealousy, as well as the impact of comparing oneself to others in various contexts.

Discussion Character

  • Exploratory
  • Conceptual clarification
  • Debate/contested

Main Points Raised

  • Some participants express feelings of jealousy towards those they perceive as smarter or more attractive, while others acknowledge their jealousy but emphasize their hard work and contentment with their own achievements.
  • There are differing views on whether it is beneficial to rank people based on intellect or appearance, with some arguing that such comparisons are meaningless.
  • Several participants suggest that instead of succumbing to jealousy, one should draw inspiration from those they admire and focus on self-improvement.
  • Some participants assert a strong sense of self-worth and confidence, claiming they do not feel inferior to others.
  • There are humorous and sarcastic remarks about the nature of superiority and the idea of creating a "test" to measure one's worth against others.

Areas of Agreement / Disagreement

The discussion features multiple competing views on jealousy and self-perception, with no clear consensus on how to best cope with feelings of jealousy or the validity of comparing oneself to others.

Contextual Notes

Participants express varying definitions of superiority and the criteria they use for comparison, which may depend on personal values such as intellect, appearance, or achievements. There is also an acknowledgment of the potential toxicity of jealousy, but opinions on its impact and management differ.

Who May Find This Useful

Individuals interested in personal development, emotional well-being, and social dynamics may find the insights shared in this discussion relevant.

How do you feel about others' superiority?

  • Eh, nobody is better than me. That's for sure! :cool:

    Votes: 12 36.4%

  • :devil::grumpy:

    Votes: 1 3.0%

  • I lose my confidence and feel bad about my life whole day.

    Votes: 1 3.0%

  • I understimate his superiority in the way that people and myself think s/he's not special at all.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • What the hell can I do? I just try not to think of that.

    Votes: 4 12.1%

  • Who cares? I just do my best to succeed at what I am good at.

    Votes: 17 51.5%

  • That would be nice to make friend with him/her.:smile:

    Votes: 6 18.2%

  • Huh? Does it really matter? :rolleyes:

    Votes: 10 30.3%

  • o:)

    Votes: 7 21.2%

  • :zzz:

    Votes: 9 27.3%
  • Total voters
    33
  • #31
berkeman said:
Same here. I try to learn from others, and emulate their best characteristics. When I meet or work with someone who is exceptionally bright and productive, I try to learn what they do that makes them so. I can't artificially increase my IQ, but I can morph my work habits to be more productive and more effective. When I meet someone on the motocross track who is faster and smoother than I am (happens a lot, I'm afraid), I watch and learn and get a little faster myself.

I didn't vote either -- you omitted the choice that nazzard and I would have made. :rolleyes:
:bugeye:
I told you that it could be "That would be nice to make friend with him/her.:smile: " .
 
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  • #32
Lisa! said:
:bugeye:
I told you that it could be "That would be nice to make friend with him/her.:smile: " .
No, not quite right. My instinct is not to befriend, necessarily, it is to improve myself in every way that I can. Imitation is a sincere form of flattery, but it is not necessarily linked to a desire for friendship.
 
  • #33
Hello Lisa,

Lisa! said:
:bugeye:
I told you that it could be "That would be nice to make friend with him/her.:smile: " .

Friendship develops over time. Yet admiration has never been a prerequisite for me to "start" the process. It can be anything really, but usually it starts with sharing/experiencing a nice moment together.


nazzard said:
:
Jealousy can be "poisonous" and it's a safe bet that nothing good arises from it.

Lisa! said:
Anyone a victim of jealousy here?

No I haven't been a victim of jealousy. I think one doesn't have to actually do all mistakes or feel the consequences from others doing them to tell right from wrong.

Regards,

nazzard
 
  • #34
nazzard said:
Hello Lisa,



Friendship develops over time. Yet admiration has never been a prerequisite for me to "start" the process. It can be anything really, but usually it starts with sharing/experiencing a nice moment together.
You're right! I should have added that option to the list as well.:blushing: I always think people whom I learn from or admire/respect a lot are my friends anyway.:smile:




No I haven't been a victim of jealousy. I think one doesn't have to actually do all mistakes or feel the consequences from others doing them to tell right from wrong.

Regards,

nazzard
Here I meant the victim of jealousy is the 1 whom others are jealous of him/her and you know how some stupid people react when they just see someone's superior to them.(spoiling that person onstead of improving their own lives:rolleyes: ) Well as for me I think that's great to be wit people who're better than you. You learn a lot and feel better about world.:smile:
 
  • #35
Hi Lisa :devil:

So, how do you feel about my superiority over you? :devil:
 
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  • #36
cyrusabdollahi said:
Hi Lisa :devil:

So, how do you feel about my superiority over you? :devil:

In love?:-p
 
  • #37
I chose option #1, but I must say that I am much cockier about it :smile:
 
  • #38
Lisa! said:
In love?:-p

Yeah, I love me too. :!)
 
  • #39
cyrusabdollahi said:
Yeah, I love me too. :!)
Does your narcissism have anything to do with your eyesight problem?:wink:
 
  • #40
Shouldn't you be cooking me some ghorme sabzi right now Miss smart mouth??
 
  • #41
11 napolean complexes, wow I wonder if it's statistically accurate that people with a penchant for physics have an overinflated opinion of themselves. 11 Jesus's and 40 normal people. That's a worrying statistic:-p

Oh why fight it I'm just marvelous you all aren't fit to stand in my shadow :wink::biggrin:

Thinking about it's just people in general that over egg their own pies, after all people who don't rarely get noticed.
 
  • #42
I enjoy spending time with nice and funny people, if they're smarter or funnier it's even better...

i don't feel threatened by other's superiority, i think some poeple have great gifts, and they make our world a better place to be in.

people who know their own value (with no underestimation or exaggeration), and have normal or above social skills are humble, and are fun to be with, you'd notice they are smarter/prettier/funnier/richer, but they don't make a big deal of it because they don't need to make people see it.

i like being around such people, and i hope i fall in this category too (though I've been told by two people that i sometimes petronize.. I'm not sure if it's just the way they interprete what i say though, because i never think I am better then anyone, when i ask for examples they say i have a certain expression or tone... nothing that i actually say... so i don't know what to make of it, i took a mental note to be aware of this.).
 
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  • #43
Don't compare yourself to others, it will make you jealous and vain.
 
  • #44
cyrusabdollahi said:
Shouldn't you be cooking me some ghorme sabzi right now Miss smart mouth??
Ghorme sabzi in summer? Anyway I think cooking is a waste of time. well I just cook for fun sometimes...
 
  • #45
Lisa! said:
Ghorme sabzi in summer? Anyway I think cooking is a waste of time. well I just cook for fun sometimes...

i like cooking for other people... it's the same kind of satisfaction i get from drawing for people or massaging them...
 
  • #46
fargoth said:
i like cooking for other people... it's the same kind of satisfaction i get from drawing for people or massaging them...
Do you just like it because you are doing that for others or you enjoy cooking itself?
 
  • #47
I never cook just for me... if I'm alone, i'll just make something that's easy to make, like spaghetti and suasages...
It's only when others eat with me that i cook something nice... last time was two days ago - i made some nice chicken slices in wine, a pie, andd we ate a watermelon for dessert :biggrin:

I like sharing and making things for others... it's very rewarding.
 

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