Dealing with Jealousy: How to Cope

[Lisa!]

Same here. I try to learn from others, and emulate their best characteristics. When I meet or work with someone who is exceptionally bright and productive, I try to learn what they do that makes them so. I can't artificially increase my IQ, but I can morph my work habits to be more productive and more effective. When I meet someone on the motocross track who is faster and smoother than I am (happens a lot, I'm afraid), I watch and learn and get a little faster myself.

I didn't vote either -- you omitted the choice that nazzard and I would have made.

I told you that it could be "That would be nice to make friend with him/her. " .

 

[berkeman]

I told you that it could be "That would be nice to make friend with him/her. " .

No, not quite right. My instinct is not to befriend, necessarily, it is to improve myself in every way that I can. Imitation is a sincere form of flattery, but it is not necessarily linked to a desire for friendship.

 

[nazzard]

Hello Lisa,

I told you that it could be "That would be nice to make friend with him/her. " .

Friendship develops over time. Yet admiration has never been a prerequisite for me to "start" the process. It can be anything really, but usually it starts with sharing/experiencing a nice moment together.

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Jealousy can be "poisonous" and it's a safe bet that nothing good arises from it.

Anyone a victim of jealousy here?

No I haven't been a victim of jealousy. I think one doesn't have to actually do all mistakes or feel the consequences from others doing them to tell right from wrong.

Regards,

nazzard

 

[Lisa!]

Hello Lisa,



Friendship develops over time. Yet admiration has never been a prerequisite for me to "start" the process. It can be anything really, but usually it starts with sharing/experiencing a nice moment together.

You're right! I should have added that option to the list as well. I always think people whom I learn from or admire/respect a lot are my friends anyway.

No I haven't been a victim of jealousy. I think one doesn't have to actually do all mistakes or feel the consequences from others doing them to tell right from wrong.

Regards,

nazzard

Here I meant the victim of jealousy is the 1 whom others are jealous of him/her and you know how some stupid people react when they just see someone's superior to them.(spoiling that person onstead of improving their own lives ) Well as for me I think that's great to be wit people who're better than you. You learn a lot and feel better about world.

 

[Cyrus]

Hi Lisa

So, how do you feel about my superiority over you?

 

[Lisa!]

Hi Lisa

So, how do you feel about my superiority over you?

In love?

 

[mattmns]

I chose option #1, but I must say that I am much cockier about it

 

[Cyrus]

In love?

Yeah, I love me too. :!)

 

[Lisa!]

Yeah, I love me too. :!)

Does your narcissism have anything to do with your eyesight problem?

 

[Cyrus]

Shouldn't you be cooking me some ghorme sabzi right now Miss smart mouth??

 

[Schrodinger's Dog]

11 napolean complexes, wow I wonder if it's statistically accurate that people with a penchant for physics have an overinflated opinion of themselves. 11 Jesus's and 40 normal people. That's a worrying statistic

Oh why fight it I'm just marvelous you all aren't fit to stand in my shadow

Thinking about it's just people in general that over egg their own pies, after all people who don't rarely get noticed.

 

[fargoth]

I enjoy spending time with nice and funny people, if they're smarter or funnier it's even better...

i don't feel threatened by other's superiority, i think some poeple have great gifts, and they make our world a better place to be in.

people who know their own value (with no underestimation or exaggeration), and have normal or above social skills are humble, and are fun to be with, you'd notice they are smarter/prettier/funnier/richer, but they don't make a big deal of it because they don't need to make people see it.

i like being around such people, and i hope i fall in this category too (though I've been told by two people that i sometimes petronize.. I'm not sure if it's just the way they interprete what i say though, because i never think I am better then anyone, when i ask for examples they say i have a certain expression or tone... nothing that i actually say... so i don't know what to make of it, i took a mental note to be aware of this.).

 

[Jimmy Snyder]

Don't compare yourself to others, it will make you jealous and vain.

 

[Lisa!]

Shouldn't you be cooking me some ghorme sabzi right now Miss smart mouth??

Ghorme sabzi in summer? Anyway I think cooking is a waste of time. well I just cook for fun sometimes...

 

[fargoth]

Ghorme sabzi in summer? Anyway I think cooking is a waste of time. well I just cook for fun sometimes...

i like cooking for other people... it's the same kind of satisfaction i get from drawing for people or massaging them...

 

[Lisa!]

i like cooking for other people... it's the same kind of satisfaction i get from drawing for people or massaging them...

Do you just like it because you are doing that for others or you enjoy cooking itself?

 

[fargoth]

I never cook just for me... if I'm alone, i'll just make something that's easy to make, like spaghetti and suasages...
It's only when others eat with me that i cook something nice... last time was two days ago - i made some nice chicken slices in wine, a pie, andd we ate a watermelon for dessert

I like sharing and making things for others... it's very rewarding.