You're welcome (can't decide if I actually mean "thanks" here...

). It's a part of why we're here.
I think you are overthinking it. A physical ruler, like you might buy in a stationery shop, does not expand because it is a bound system - the atoms are held together by electromagnetic forces. So if you could lay a lot of 1m rulers between here and a galaxy a few hundred megaparsecs away, you would find gaps opening between the rulers (or a gap appearing at the end between the last ruler and the galaxy or something - it depends a bit how you set up the rulers). That's a way to conceptualise what we're talking about here. Chunks of matter do not expand, and nearby galaxies (which are bound together by gravity) do not get further apart, but galactic clusters do.