OK let's start with your bowling ball on an elastic sheet analogy, is it impossible to comprehend a very large attraction close to the ball and an increasingly small but never zero curvature or attraction in terms of the Universes expanse? Is the universe actually infinite in size?
Mathematically using Newtons equation:
[tex]F_g=G_k\frac{m1m2}{r^2}[/tex]
Fg=Force of gravity
Gk=the gravitational constant
m1,m2 are our masses.
r2=the distance between their centres of gravity
If we assume that the Universe is not infinite in size and we have no reason to believe it is. Then does the value of m1 and m2 reach 0 as r^2 approaches the Universes size or the limit of the equation? Let's put in the gravitational constant 6.7428x10-11, any value of m1,m2 and for convenience a size of about 156 billion light years wide, a sort of scientific estimate on the size of the universe.
As you will see no the value is not 0, gravity's extent is across the whole Universe, because it never reaches zero.
We use the infinity of the Universe in a very particular way.
Now we do not know this is the case, we cannot prove it but we can be sure that if the law is true and the Universes expanse is finite, given the equation gravitation has no value=0.