The geometry of spacetime does not "change"; it is a 4-dimensional geometry that just "is". But that 4-dimensional geometry can certainly consist of wavelike "ripples" whose amplitude decreases as you move in spacetime from the vacuum region between the source and a detector, through the region of spacetime occupied by the detector, to the vacuum region beyond the detector. Correspondingly, the matter and energy distribution in the region of spacetime occupied by the detector is different "upstream" of the region where the GW passes through, vs. "downstream" of that region. Geometrically, this is just a particular geometry that is a perfectly good solution of the Einstein Field Equations--the EFE is what makes the connection between the spacetime geometry and the distribution of matter and energy. To us, located near the detector, it would look like a GW passing, being detected by the detector, and giving up some energy to it in the process. Now consider an alternative geometry, where the GW amplitude did not change at all from the vacuum region before the detector, through the detector, to the vacuum region after the detector. The point I'm making is that, in this case, there would be nothing in the detector region that corresponded to "detecting a GW"; the distribution of matter and energy in the region of spacetime occupied by the detector itself would be exactly what it would have been if no GW had passed through. This is why I said that the only way for a detector to detect a GW is for it to take some energy from it--if there is no exchange of energy, there is nothing in the matter and energy distribution of the detector that is affected by the spacetime geometry of the GW, so no GW is detected.
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https://www.physicsforums.com/threads/time-reversed-gw-emission.859974/