How can I handle a difficult person in my social circle?

[Mattius_]

It has been a while...

The last time I physically saw this guy and my other friends was the night I first posted this. I distanced myself from most of them and the thing that kinda brought me into realization is that none of my "close" friends have ever tried to contact me since then. Kinda makes me realize what kind of people they are. More recently, the antagonist is up to his things again, he just posted yesterday some cheap shots over a forum which kinda got me going again. I haven't yet given a response, and I am not sure I plan to. I will see him again on Sunday, the day before labor day, and I will see all of the people involved in this scenario as well. The meeting is competitive, and words will most likely fly across the room.

Since the first post, I really haven't gotten any less pissed, so bottom line is, something is going to happen at this gathering. Either I am going to fight him, or I am going to insult him and really get under his skin so that I don't leave in the same position as I came.

Ill tell you all what happens, I think right now I am off to write a response to him, maybe it will settle me down a little.

 

[Dagenais]

Ill tell you all what happens, I think right now I am off to write a response to him, maybe it will settle me down a little.

Try something like,

"I'm sorry I took so long to reply, but I was busy with your mother."

BTW, why did a weird message come up when I tried to quick reply, it went something like, "Mattius_ Bad Post is Online Now Quick Reply"?

 

[bfd]

I did just that tonight, (the talk thing, not the pet thing) and they are evasive of conflict. They are very nice people but they really did not nor do ever (this has been a long conflict) look for a long term solution. They only look for what ends the problem at the moment. They assume that it will eventually all just blow over, which it never has. They have expressed to me on the side that I am right and he is antagonistic but they never say it to his face because they choose to avoid conflict.

So yes, I could walk away from this all but if I do ill have a sour taste in my mouth, because he has not been taught a lesson, I hate sour tastes.

Id consider slashing his tires in anononymity, and althought that is tempting, I don't want to get into that kinda trouble because I would be an easy suspect... This whole situation just gets my blood boiling...

Oh, and the thing is, I can't choose to hang out with them at certain times when he isn't there, because he is roommates with one of the good friends I was talking about, so yea, it is quite the pickle.

If I were you I'd advise you to drop these so called friends. If anything these people did you a favor. If they were true friends they would stand up for you when the time is needed. Its very telling of their character when they conveniently chose to avoid conflict. There are times in life when this is not possible. Its better you found this out now rather than a moment when you might have really needed them. I'd say forget them. Its their loss not yours. If anything you're gaining the most because the whole situation is a learning experience. As for that other guy I wouldn't worry too much about him. He only tries to piss you off cause he knows he can. $100 says he does this out of insecurity or jelousy. You know the old saying "what goes around comes around". I'm sure reality is going to push that insecurity button on him real soon.