phinds said:
It may be true for some people but it is a TERRIBLE goal
Several of my European colleagues had an adage, "Americans live to work; Europeans work to live." Given the diversity of Americans and Europeans, this is of course an overly broad generalization. But perhaps an iota of truth to it.
Perhaps a terrible
goal, if we define a goal as an
ideal outcome. As I wrote above, "Ideally, you should enjoy your job. You don't always have that luxury, however." But as a compromise to balance all the complex factors in life, it (being neutral about your job and treating your job primarily as a source of income, rather than as a source of joy) is certainly an acceptable, reasonable, and pragmatic outcome.
I spent 4 yrs getting my bachelor's and 7 yrs getting my PhD (all in physics). I landed a great job in what was then one of the world's top industrial R&D labs. That job lasted just over 8 yrs. Then I got caught up in a corporate downsizing and industry-wide meltdown. I was faced with two options: (a) continue with the type of work that I loved by moving to a different company thousands of miles away (even during an industry-wide meltdown, there will usually still be a few companies hiring, if you have the right expertise and experience) or (b) transition to an entirely different field within my present company (old areas were being killed off, new areas were growing).
I chose (b) because my family took priority over my job. Other colleagues chose (a). Some split up their families (one spouse moved out of state to work, while their family stayed behind; the out-of-state spouse would come home every weekend, or less frequently depending on distance). Others uprooted their spouses from their jobs and uprooted their kids from their schools. One colleague relocated to about 5 different states within about 10 yrs. That's a lot of toll on a family.
Over the years, I experienced further corporate disintegrations and industry-wide meltdowns. Each time, my number one goal was to keep my family intact, not to maintain joy in my career. I was multi-talented and flexible enough to switch to jobs that were in demand. I was good at my work and succeeded. Even if I didn't enjoy my job, I worked hard at it and learned as much as I could, developing new expertise that I could leverage in the future. But as I transitioned further away from what I truly loved (experimental physics), I enjoyed the work less ... to the point of being neutral about it. But, even then, my boss was happy because clients kept insisting on having me assigned to them and they were willing to pay a premium for me.