BobG said:
Your tires will last longer if you rotate them about every 6,000 miles or every 6 months.
Was that general advice or directed specifically at me? I know to get tires rotated. I thought everyone knew that.

And if you don't know, every time you bring the car in, they ask if you want it done. I just get it done whenever I bring the car in for any other random things it needs.
Not all brakes use the wear indicators anymore.
Yeah, apparently not. It would have been nice if they told me that when I got the car. You'd think the way they keep adding more and more idiot-proofing to cars that they wouldn't eliminate an indicator everyone expects is going to be there.
As for mileage between oil changes, my stepdad was a mechanic for 20 years and told me there's no reason to listen to that every 3000 mile advice, that's just to sell more oil changes. Depending on how you drive, 5000 to 6000 miles is about right. With so many places that will change your oil in 10 minutes, I just head to one of those places whenever I have a little time or pass one by when I'm anywhere between 3000 and 6000 after the last change (those little stickers they give you with your mileage at the oil change are the world's best idea! I used to never remember how long it had been). It's not worth doing it myself when there are places that do it so quickly...the extra cost is worth the added hour or two it would take me to spread kitty litter on the inevitable oil spill on the driveway (I can't even change the lawnmower oil without spilling some of it, and that takes less than a quart; I'd be a mess with 4 quarts), scrub the oil off of myself, the fingerprints off the car, find a container for the used oil and take it to a place to get it disposed, etc.
As for mechanics, it depends on who you go to. I've run into some who clearly were trying to get away with unnecessary parts and work, whether it was because I was female or if they would try that with anyone, I don't know, but while there's a lot I won't do myself, I at least know enough about what gets done to sniff out those who try that (I did do my own work when I lived home and near home, because my stepdad could help or talk me through it and he had all the tools). When I'm in doubt, I still just call him and tell him what my car is doing, what the shop says it needs, and have him tell me if it sounds reasonable.
When I lived in MI, you'd think being so close to the motor capitol of the world there might have been some decent mechanics, but maybe everyone who knows anything just does their own work, because I could not for the life of me find a shop that knew what they were doing or didn't try ripping me off for stuff the car didn't need, so I finally resolved the issue by diagnosing the problem via phone with my stepdad (I'd tell him what the car was doing, and he'd tell me a bunch of things to try to narrow it down, I'd call back and tell him the outcome, he'd tell me what was most likely wrong, have me check out one more thing, and that would confirm it), and then I'd just go to the shop and say, "replace this part." That's what they were good for, changing parts, not diagnosing problems.