How to Deal With Cheaters and the Ethics of Infidelity

Thread starter TheStatutoryApe
Start date Mar 3, 2010
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The discussion centers on the complexities of dealing with infidelity in relationships, emphasizing the importance of trust and respect. The original poster explores various responses to a partner's cheating, including breaking up, forgiving without consequences, or withholding forgiveness, ultimately arguing that maintaining a relationship post-cheating is often unhealthy. Participants highlight the significance of context, such as the duration of the relationship and the involvement of both partners in the infidelity. Some suggest that in long-term relationships, occasional indiscretions might be acceptable, advocating for a "don't ask, don't tell" policy. Overall, the consensus leans toward the belief that relationships marred by early cheating are typically not worth salvaging.

Apr 1, 2010

TheStatutoryApe

Kajahtava said:

She is no different person than before. She still is, as she was, a person that would potentially succumb to cheating. If you thought she wasn't, you have simply never known her well; one could wonder the base of your feelings then.

Otherwise, let's say you never found out? you would then still live in the idea that she wasn't cheating.

I wouldn't hate people for their actions though, that's naïve, I fully believe that every person on the planet, Ghandi included is fully capable of murder or rape when the right stimuli are given, I find it better to like or dislike people on what they are, id est, how much stimuli is required for them to cross that line. As I said, she still is the same person as before.

If this is in response to the OP then I would say that what changed was our relationship and the manner in which it changed would be dependent upon the fallout of the situation as I noted in the OP. The various likely outcomes of staying together, considering the circumstances, appeared unacceptable. I do not hate her. We are still friends, after a period of time apart from one another. Had we stayed together though the situation likely would have deteriorated to the point where a friendly aftermath would have been incredibly unlikely.