@MikeyW: Yes, that's true; it makes sense that something different should happen once the wave passes through the slit. But, still, I would really like to understand the exact mechanical process. Do you think it is completely intuitive what happens in diffraction such that its mechanical explanation is unnecessary? I feel exactly the opposite and I'm actually starting to believe nobody has really worked it out !
I wish there was some sort of a visualization aid like a java applet that makes waves with small particles interacting and passes them through slits. Is there some such app?
@sophiecentaur: I never said molecules bend or "go" somewhere.