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Ooooohhhh, MaxS I think I know you.
Are you the gyu living in Peru ? Your way of using English gives me that guess.
Are you the gyu living in Peru ? Your way of using English gives me that guess.
arildno said:To put a few sparks into the debate, I don't think that having sex with a different person than the one you gave a silly promise not to do that years ago is wrong.
What is wrong, is the lies, evasions and simple dishonesty in not telling your life-partner about things you've done that would be relevant for your life-partner in his or hers decision as to whether or not continue the relationship with you.
But arildno, what you are describing is not what would likely be called an 'extramarital affair'. This thing generally involves deception.arildno said:To put a few sparks into the debate, I don't think that having sex with a different person than the one you gave a silly promise not to do that years ago is wrong.
What is wrong, is the lies, evasions and simple dishonesty in not telling your life-partner about things you've done that would be relevant for your life-partner in his or hers decision as to whether or not continue the relationship with you.
So?Gokul43201 said:But arildno, what you are describing is not what would likely be called an 'extramarital affair'. This thing generally involves deception.
You're assuming that what arildno described is cheating. I think he was just referring to an open relationship.Lisa! said:Perhaps you can find someone like yourself who doesn't mind to be cheated on and in return you shouldn't mind too!
That is correct.hypermorphism said:You're assuming that what arildno described is cheating. I think he was just referring to an open relationship.
I thought the smartest thing is "not to do it"; but the next smart thing is if you did do it for whatever reason or absence thereof, then for duck's sake do not confess up during dinner unless you really want your partner to leave and that's your way of making sure that he or she will.arildno said:What is wrong, is the lies, evasions and simple dishonesty in not telling your life-partner about things you've done that would be relevant for your life-partner in his or hers decision as to whether or not continue the relationship with you.
I even hadn't read your post that wasn't at the same time with mine!arildno said:Lisa!'s and my post were posted at the same time (so she couldn't possibly have read my reply), my "that is correct" refers to my stance that an "open relationship" is in principle to be preferred.
Lisa! said:I even hadn't read your post that wasn't at the same time with mine!
I told you I usually don't read posts with more than 1 sentence!arildno said:
Aren't all primates? Or were you referring to the swingout option in a health insurance plan?Andy said:arildno are you a swinger?
I prefer swish to swing.Andy said:arildno are you a swinger?
Sorry, that just struck me as funny. Yes, it is a major contributor.chup said:Adultery is caused by no sex AFTER marriage.
chup said:Adultery is caused by no sex AFTER marriage.
Originally posted by lazy rabbit
Given that the sexual act is one in which emotional bonding is occurring,
Maybe some of them do, but they too learn to Harden their Hearts against it, is that what you want to do, harden your heart?Andy said:I beg to differ on this point. As far as I am concerned sex can be just plain old sex. Do you see prostitutes getting emotionally attached? Making love is where bonding occurs.
Funny, cause most of the complaints I've Heard of, are of No Sex During the Marriage, what goes on after the Marriage is entirely up to the Individuals, so long as the Divorce Papers are in. (OMO)chup said:Adultery is caused by no sex AFTER marriage.
Originally posted by lazy rabbit
Maybe some of them do, but they too learn to Harden their Hearts against it, is that what you want to do, harden your heart?
And Prostitutes getting emotionally attached? while they are working, isn't that a Bit like saying ALL bartenders MUST become Alcoholics?
Aside from that, I seem to recall that I had said it was in the "time of partnering" so the bonding is usually from repetitive encounters with the same person, prostitutes usually do not do that, unless they can stay emotionally unattached to that client, then they have them as one of their "regulars" or Johns.
"Just Plain Old Sex" someone sounds Bored, in the Bedroom.
Given that the sexual act is one in which emotional bonding is occurring,
Andy said:Plain old sex is boring though, making love is where the magic happens.
As far as I am concerned there is a huge difference between sex and making love, and anyone that has experienced the two would understand what i mean.
Oh, and bartenders only handle the drinks they don't drink them, so that was a bad example to use.
No effort? you mean leaving it up to her to acomplish or finish it all?Andy said:When i say plain old sex i am talking about having sex even though you can't really be bothered to put that much effort into it, we've all done it so don't try and say that you havent. Everyone needs a quick release from all that built up tension.
The quote on top seems to tell a slightly different story, perhaps.Andy said:Who said anything about sex boring me? I am still young enough to not need viagra.
Andy said:Anyway being a Rabbit you wouldn't know what i mean anway, how passionate can you get when hopping off one doe and onto another?
No effort? you mean leaving it up to her to acomplish or finish it all?
Am I ever glad I am a Male Rabbit, with the likes of you running around, using drugs, to get at Girls...someone of them ought to cut off your leg, now that it would be a "Lucky Foot" for some poor unsuspecting Innocent young Virginal Female.Andy said:Well if she doesn't mind, if she does i just slip some rohypnol into her drink!
Tent? what the Heck do you think I am, a Tent, that is for Sissified Rabbits, not real Male ones, like myself, I have a Sumptuous Warren, many rooms, and a Bathing area to boot, turtle made me put it in.Andy said:You can't have that much room in your tent anyway can you?
Lapin Dormant said:some poor unsuspecting Innocent young Virginal Female.