Is Adultery Worse Than Pre-Marital Sex?

[rocketboy]

I hope you're thinking about your parents and sex at the same time now.

YOU ARE EVIL!

 

[EnumaElish]

I can testify that TV watching leads to early sex.

All the good shows are on at night time. The only good time for sex is when you get up.

This got a chuck out of me.

 

[Gokul43201]

thanks a lot for the replies and views. the somewhat heated dicussion this was sparking shows me that it would be a good topic to set as a debate to my class. thank you.

I have no idea how you arrived at this conclusion. Do you see anyone taking the stand that sex before marriage is the worse of the two (or is even a bad thing in the first place) ?

It's like asking people to debate whether having a root canal surgery is more exciting than winning a huge lottery.

 

[EnumaElish]

I have no idea how you arrived at this conclusion. []
It's like asking people to debate whether having a root canal surgery is more exciting than winning a huge lottery.

I am sure this is the opposite of what everybody else would choose, but winning a lottery would almost surely beat having a root canal.

 

[MaxS]

"adultery is worse than sex before marriage" do you agree?
i would like to hear your opinions, giving reaons both for and against the statement

LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL

You're from Utah aren't you. Fess up.

 

[djeipa]

Ooooohhhh, MaxS I think I know you.
Are you the gyu living in Peru ? Your way of using English gives me that guess.

 

[MaxS]

I was making a pun on the conservative attitude mormons hold toward sex, not on his sentence structure.

Everyone makes fun of mormons. And they damn well deserve it lol believe me I've known plenty of mormon kids, they either go crazy and explode into sexmania and drugs or otherwise end up really effing weird until they hit like 40 and turn into their weird Pleasantville-like parents.

 

[arildno]

To put a few sparks into the debate, I don't think that having sex with a different person than the one you gave a silly promise not to do that years ago is wrong.

What is wrong, is the lies, evasions and simple dishonesty in not telling your life-partner about things you've done that would be relevant for your life-partner in his or hers decision as to whether or not continue the relationship with you.

 

[Norman]

To put a few sparks into the debate, I don't think that having sex with a different person than the one you gave a silly promise not to do that years ago is wrong.

What is wrong, is the lies, evasions and simple dishonesty in not telling your life-partner about things you've done that would be relevant for your life-partner in his or hers decision as to whether or not continue the relationship with you.

So completely crushing the soul of the person who believed that you were faithfull to them is ok? So one day you just toss out there, "So honey, last night had some great sex with "insert name here that is not partner"."

Or are you saying that from the very beginning that you should be honest and let them know you have wanderlust? That you care for them, but everything else is just sex? I think I need you to clarify your statement a little before I comment because I may be reading it wrong.
Cheers

 

[Gokul43201]

To put a few sparks into the debate, I don't think that having sex with a different person than the one you gave a silly promise not to do that years ago is wrong.

What is wrong, is the lies, evasions and simple dishonesty in not telling your life-partner about things you've done that would be relevant for your life-partner in his or hers decision as to whether or not continue the relationship with you.

But arildno, what you are describing is not what would likely be called an 'extramarital affair'. This thing generally involves deception.

 

[arildno]

But arildno, what you are describing is not what would likely be called an 'extramarital affair'. This thing generally involves deception.

So?
Why should the socially induced fear of being branded as a loser or unserious individual if you don't "manage" to stay in life-long monogamy be an emotion nurtured and kept alive by both members of the couple in the first place??

Life-long monogamy is fine, as long as that the couple involved chooses to uphold it because they want to, rather than that they uphold it because they are afraid of what might happen or how they will be judged if they choose to break out of it.

 

[Lisa!]

Before cheating on someone we should think whether we like someone to cheat on us or not! If you're going to do whatever you want even after you get married or date someone, you should let the person know what kind of person you are. Perhaps you can find someone like yourself who doesn't mind to be cheated on and in return you shouldn't mind too!

 

[hypermorphism]

Perhaps you can find someone like yourself who doesn't mind to be cheated on and in return you shouldn't mind too!

You're assuming that what arildno described is cheating. I think he was just referring to an open relationship.

 

[arildno]

You're assuming that what arildno described is cheating. I think he was just referring to an open relationship.

That is correct.

 

[Lisa!]

I wasn't commentening on what arildno said! I'd not read his post.

 

[arildno]

Lisa!'s and my post were posted at the same time (so she couldn't possibly have read my reply), my "that is correct" refers to my stance that an "open relationship" is in principle to be preferred.

 

[EnumaElish]

What is wrong, is the lies, evasions and simple dishonesty in not telling your life-partner about things you've done that would be relevant for your life-partner in his or hers decision as to whether or not continue the relationship with you.

I thought the smartest thing is "not to do it"; but the next smart thing is if you did do it for whatever reason or absence thereof, then for duck's sake do not confess up during dinner unless you really want your partner to leave and that's your way of making sure that he or she will.

 

[Lisa!]

Lisa!'s and my post were posted at the same time (so she couldn't possibly have read my reply), my "that is correct" refers to my stance that an "open relationship" is in principle to be preferred.

I even hadn't read your post that wasn't at the same time with mine!

 

[arildno]

I even hadn't read your post that wasn't at the same time with mine!

 

[Lisa!]

I told you I usually don't read posts with more than 1 sentence!

 

[Andy]

The smartest thing to do is not cheat, the second smartest thing to do is not get caught.

arildno are you a swinger?

 

[EnumaElish]

arildno are you a swinger?

Aren't all primates? Or were you referring to the swingout option in a health insurance plan?

 

[arildno]

arildno are you a swinger?

I prefer swish to swing.

 

[Lapin Dormant]

Given that the sexual act is one in which emotional bonding is occurring, time of partenering becomes more destructive if, eventually, it is sure of ending, so it would be more emotively healthy to try to wait for the right person and then partener to bond emotionally.

For myself, in my personal belief system, I see Adultery as Any Sex outside of Marriage, including pre-marital, so the reality, for me, is different to the rest/most of the opinons expressed by the other posters.

Anyone can, reasonably speaking, practise whatever they want, so long as they accept the consequences of their actions, & respect their Parteners, properly.

The emotive disruptiveness of separating from a Previoulsy attached partener is, can be, very telling, for the rest of your life, emotionally and physically and intellectually, so choosing carefully is a Good move, only my opinion. (OMO)

Personally I would rather be married, but there seem to be No other Available rabbits, in my current field, then again, in my dreams, YeehaW.

LD
(Listens to sounds of a Thumping foot rapido, apres ca, je vais me coucher et dormir[/color])

 

[chup]

Adultery is caused by no sex AFTER marriage.

 

[Evo]

Adultery is caused by no sex AFTER marriage.

Sorry, that just struck me as funny. Yes, it is a major contributor.

 

[Andy]

Nice one chup, think we might like you.

 

[Kalimaa23]

Adultery is caused by no sex AFTER marriage.

Well, I wouldn't say that it's the cause, but they are corrolated.
After all no sex in a relationship usually is a tell tale sign of other problems...

 

[Andy]

Originally posted by lazy rabbit
Given that the sexual act is one in which emotional bonding is occurring,

I beg to differ on this point. As far as I am concerned sex can be just plain old sex. Do you see prostitutes getting emotionally attached? Making love is where bonding occurs.

 

[Lapin Dormant]

I beg to differ on this point. As far as I am concerned sex can be just plain old sex. Do you see prostitutes getting emotionally attached? Making love is where bonding occurs.

Maybe some of them do, but they too learn to Harden their Hearts against it, is that what you want to do, harden your heart?

And Prostitutes getting emotionally attached? while they are working, isn't that a Bit like saying ALL bartenders MUST become Alcoholics?

Aside from that, I seem to recall that I had said it was in the "time of partnering" so the bonding is usually from repetitive encounters with the same person, prostitutes usually do not do that, unless they can stay emotionally unattached to that client, then they have them as one of their "regulars" or Johns.

"Just Plain Old Sex" someone sounds Bored, in the Bedroom.