csullens said:
on the one hand a force which acts equally on everything is really "not a force at all," but on the other hand it will produce a nonzero proper acceleration and time dilation?
No. I was not describing two different ways of looking at the same "force". I was describing two different possibilities that you appear to me to be conflating:
(1) A "force" that does not produce any proper acceleration at all. This is "really not a force at all", by the same argument that Einstein used to show that gravity is not a force: we can duplicate its effects in an accelerating rocket where, by hypothesis, the "force" is entirely absent.
(2) A force that
does produce proper acceleration, but acts on every atom in an object in exactly the same way, so that the distances between the atoms remain the same (Born rigid acceleration), and therefore no stresses or strains appear. An example of this would be a hypothetical object consisting of, for example, two electrons connected by a massless spring, oriented parallel to a constant electric field (for example, somewhere between the plates of a very, very large capacitor). Both electrons would be accelerated equally, so the spring would remain unstretched; but they would still be under nonzero proper acceleration and you could not duplicate the effects in an accelerating rocket where no electric field was present, because there would be time dilation between the two electrons (see below for more on that).
csullens said:
If the elevator is in free fall,
Then the time dilation effect is not present, as I said in an earlier post. There has to be nonzero proper acceleration.
More precisely: if we have two objects, both in free fall (zero proper acceleration), at a constant separation, there will be no time dilation between them. This applies to two objects at rest in a freely falling elevator, or two objects dropped inside a rocket that is accelerating because its engines are firing.
But if we have two objects, both under nonzero proper acceleration, then there
will be time dilation between them if they are at different heights (i.e., different positions along the direction of the proper acceleration). This applies to two objects at rest at the top and bottom of an accelerating rocket, or two electrons oriented parallel to a constant electric field as in the huge capacitor I described above.