PeterDonis said:
Yes, sure. But none of this answers the question I have been asking: how do you know that a given point ##Q## is "the same" point in the two coordinate charts?
Mathematically, of course, you can always say that a given point ##Q## is labeled by coordinate values ##x^a + dx^a## and ##y^a + dy^a##, which are unequal, just because; in mathematics you can construct any consistent model you wish. But this discussion is about physics, not mathematics.
If you are to formulate a physical theory you first need to establish a mathematical foundation. Given that in GR there is no a priori given geometry, when formulating the theory you are starting from a bare differentiable manifold. Differentiable manifolds come equipped with coordinate charts and when charts overlap the same point ##p## inside the overlap is labelled by different coordinate values in the two different coordinate charts. Books on GR start out describing maths of differential manifolds.
O.K. say we are working in ##x-##coordinates and we find that a metric tensor function ##g_{ab} (x)## that solves Einstein's field equations expresssed as a set of differential equations where the independent variable is ##x^a##. Given two close points ##P## and ##Q## defined by certain ##x-##coordinate values, the metric tensor function gives the distance between them.
In textbooks you are told that if you do a coordinate transformation from say ##x-##coordinates to ##y-##coordinates you get a coordinate induced metric tensor function usually denoted by ##g_{ab}'(y)## which asigns the same distance between ##P## and ##Q## in the ##y-##coordinates as ##g_{ab} (x)## did in the ##x-##coordinates.
What I'm telling you about is that things aren't as simply as this and that there are implications of general covarince that Einstein "...initially panics in front of...". There is an additional solution to Einstein's equations in the ##y-##coordinates - namely the same function as ##g_{ab} (x)## but with ##x## replaced by ##y##. This follows from the requirement that the laws of nature must be the same in all coordinates systems.
What I think you don't like is that this additional solution assigns a different distance between the two points ##P## and ##Q## than does ##g_{ab} (x)## in the ##x-##coordinates. I think this is why you keep asking how can ##Q## be the same point in the ##y-##coordinates as it is in the ##x-##coordinates: `if it says the distance from ##P## to ##Q## is different then how can ##Q## be the same point in the ##y-##coordinates?'
Rovelli also defines a new field. On page 48 of
http://www.cpt.univ-mrs.fr/~rovelli/book.pdf
in the paragraph starting "Let me repeat the same argument in a different form" Rovelli talks about a "
different field" where he is using the same fact as I am using - that the laws of physics have the same for in all coordinate systems to allude that a field with the same functional form is also a solution. He actually takes the coordinate transformed (tetrad) field ##e^{'I}_\nu (y)## and then writes down a field in the ##x-##coordinates that has the same functional form as this, namely ##\tilde{e}_\mu^I (x)## - see eq (2.134). This
different field will asign a different distance between the points than does the original field ##e_\mu^I (x)##. What I did was similar and has the same conclusion - the distance between ##P## and ##Q## is not determined by GR.
What you have to come to terms with is that GR does not uniquely determine the distance between two points
defined by coordinates values as ##P## and ##Q## are.
If you want to make predictions that GR actually determines you must define points physically, for example as the intersection point between the world lines of two particles. This is what the diagram on page 49 is referring to in
http://www.cpt.univ-mrs.fr/~rovelli/book.pdf