Defending, not disputing. No, it's not very common for people to fail this, at least in physics. Most of my profs have a story about someone it happened to, but usually only one story. Your adviser should not let you attempt to defend if they think you might not pass it. It's not their job to make you do your work, but it should be their job to decide if you're done or not. I've seen people fail masters defenses for not knowing enough background on the subject to answer questions on it, but I've never seen someone fail a PhD defense. Usually it's at least 4 professors grilling you, not just one.