Is there an etiquette way of rejecting gifts?

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The discussion revolves around the etiquette of rejecting gifts, exploring the feelings and social dynamics involved in gift-giving and receiving. Participants share their personal experiences and opinions on how to handle unwanted gifts, the implications of acceptance, and the emotional weight of gift exchanges.

Discussion Character

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Main Points Raised

  • Some participants express a strong preference for always accepting gifts, arguing that it shows appreciation and can prevent hurting the giver's feelings.
  • Others suggest that it is acceptable to reject gifts, particularly if they come from individuals who may not understand social cues, and propose direct communication about not wanting gifts.
  • A few participants humorously suggest extreme reactions to unwanted gifts, such as breaking them or giving them away to others.
  • One participant highlights the deeper meaning behind accepting gifts, suggesting it signifies valuing the giver as a person.
  • Concerns are raised about the nature of certain gifts, with references to potentially harmful or inappropriate gifts, indicating a need for caution in acceptance.
  • Several posts reference cultural or linguistic nuances related to the concept of gifts, adding a layer of humor and historical context to the discussion.

Areas of Agreement / Disagreement

Participants generally do not reach a consensus on the etiquette of rejecting gifts, with multiple competing views remaining on how to handle unwanted gifts and the implications of acceptance.

Contextual Notes

Some participants mention specific scenarios or types of relationships that may influence their views on gift acceptance, indicating that context plays a significant role in the discussion.

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Title says all, I really hate getting bad gifts and feeling want to "give back" or "owing a favor"
 
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I always accept gifts, regardless of what it is.
Some people are gifters, and they must gift to others. It's a way of them to show their appreciation of you.

Not to accept their gift, can dramatically hurt their feelings, and they may feel that you do not have the same appreciation of them, regardless if you have appreciation or not.

I am not a gifter, and the only times I expect gifts are Christmas and my Bday. Any other time can confuse me a bit, but I always accept them.

Simply say "thank you", and accept it.
 
If you don't want it, break it, and throw it at them. That'll teach 'em not to bother you with gifts.
 
Just give the bad gifts to someone else you don't like.
 
Insanity said:
I always accept gifts, regardless of what it is.
Some people are gifters, and they must gift to others. It's a way of them to show their appreciation of you.

Not to accept their gift, can dramatically hurt their feelings, and they may feel that you do not have the same appreciation of them, regardless if you have appreciation or not.

I am not a gifter, and the only times I expect gifts are Christmas and my Bday. Any other time can confuse me a bit, but I always accept them.

Simply say "thank you", and accept it.

+1

This post gets my vote. It's good to be gracious.
 
When people profure gifts, they are giving you a part of themselves. Accepting a gift is one of the purist ways of saying, "I value you as a human being."

It really doesn't matter whether the giver is your lover, your best friend, your brother, trusted friend, office mate, or a drug lord. Acceptance of a gift helps bring them that much closer to humanity.

You can always call the DEA later...
 
You really shouldn't reject gifts however in the case of troy I guess it's ok to leave them outside of your city from time to time. If you could explain what type of gift your getting and from what type of person that might help. I guess if I was getting bad gifts from someone I would just tell them I don't accept gifts for xyz reason and leave it at that. There are a few guys I have known that will give women that are obviously not into them gifts over and over again without getting the message. The best thing those girls could do imo is bring in some big dangerous looking guy friend and tell the other guy that's her boyfriend. Not sure if that's what's going on here.
 
Containment said:
You really shouldn't reject gifts however in the case of troy I guess it's ok to leave them outside of your city from time to time.

:smile:
 
Honestly after watching so many movies I probably wouldn't accept any gift I didn't know I was going to be getting. Like dolls filled with a powder that melts your bones like I saw in a recent fringe episode...
 
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Fun fact: Gift is the German word for poison, so definitely never accept a "gift" from a German. I'm pretty sure that's why Germany and England have been at war so many times. A simple misunderstanding caused by a cross-lingual homonym.
 
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caffenta said:
fun fact: Gift is the german word for poison, so definitely never accept a "gift" from a german. I'm pretty sure that's why germany and england have been at war so many times. A simple misunderstanding caused by a cross-lingual homonym.


lol!
 

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