it it aggressive to label someone "aggressive?" In another thread, the difference between aggression and assertiveness was raised. This made me wonder what is going on when someone would label someone else's assertiveness as "aggression." Is this itself an aggressive tactic to cause someone to reduce their assertiveness, and if not when it is legitimate to expect someone to back off? What about when the only reason you want them to back off is because you feel like they are proving you wrong or confronting you with something offensive or problematic that you have done? In general, is it aggressive to accuse someone of aggression?